LADIES ONLY.. Whats the bests way for a guy to start talking to a women he doesn't even know?

Question

I have been shy all my life and not confident around women I don't already know whats the best way to get over this?

Answer 1

If this is someone you see at work or at least ofter, you need to start slowly. The first time just give her a shy smile and walk by. Each day you see this woman look into her eyes and smile. After a few days start to say "Hello" as you pass and see how she responds. You slowly work up to things like "Here were are again" when you see her. Eventually you feel more confident and will be able to talk to her.

For someone who you may not see on a regulare basis you may need to try something else. First is the eye contact. You want to make sure you see her and connect from across the room the first time. The distance will allow you to feel a little more secure. Glance at her once in a while - don't stare. When her eyes meet yours, don't drop your eyes. Look deeply into hers for a few seconds, then turn away. If you drop your eyes it whill show you are shy, and you are trying to get over this! Every few minutes look at her again. If she is returning your glances, she is open to communicating with you. Now it is up to you to move a bit closer to her. See if she is still following you with her eyes. If so, you are ready to move up to her and ask her if she would like to dance, drink, talk, what ever is going on where you are at the time.

Here is the best trick that everyone needs to know about overcoming your shyness. Ask the woman questions about herself. Not really personal questions, but general questions that she would not be afriad to answer. People love to tell you about themselves. If you ask questions and she talks the whole time, you don't have to worry about being shy and she will think you are the one man on Earth who really listens to a woman!

Some safe questions:
Have you seen any good movies lately?
Have you read and books that you would recommend?
Are you a (insert the name of a band, sports team, TV show) fan?

I am incredibly shy, and this helps me talk to new people.

Answer 2

Just focus that the worst that can happen is that nothing happens at all. Just go there and do it!! It is surprising how many women are glad to have a pleasant level of attention paid to them. Confidence is the key!! Show some of it to her!!

But some extra hints:
a) Don't gawp (no no at the chest level)
b) Don't drool
c) Buy a Porsche as a security investment (actually that doesn't work. Had a $150,000 car for two years and did not attract the ladies, not for the money I splashed out. Went back to the dealer to complain they forgot to install the "chick-magnet" button.


Good luck!!
P.S. Yeah, I am a guy and this was for the ladies. Sue me for giving good advice!!

Answer 3

Just walk up and introduce yourself. If she's interested, she'll face you, look you in the eye, and introduce herself, and chat. If she's not, she'll try to ignore you, but don't take it personally. Everyone, and I really do mean everyone, gets turned down *most* of the time.

I've always liked guys who were just straight forward and honest in their interest. Politeness is big with me, too.

Just say hi, make an obvious comment about what caught your eye about her, or maybe what she was doing or looking at, in a played down kind of way. The real key is keeping it relaxed and non-threatening. I've always had good luck with pretending like you've known the person all your life.

If it doesn't work out, then move on gracefully. People say no to you all the time about all kinds of things. One more "no" during the day isn't going to make much of a difference, right?

People say that "I love you" is the hardest thing to say in the English language, but I don't agree. The hardest thing to say is hi to a complete stranger that you think you'd like to get to know. But practice makes perfect, as the saying goes.

Answer 4

never come out with a line i like men who will talk to me at coffee shops and bus stops like joke about things if some ones on there own reading ask say how long has the bus been or do you mind if i sit hear so i don't look alone oh BTW what you reading stuff like that. make a girl laf and shell be interested from the start unless of course shes in a relationship or not interested in which case you can just say OK fair enough just making polite convo to pass the time :) oh yeh and add well its been nice talking to someone interesting did you wana maybe swap details and we can do this again ?

Answer 5

A compliment always work not a stupid one neither one that would make a lady smile

Answer 6

just be yourself! go up to her and start talking to her. tell her that you've noticed how pretty she was and you wanted to get to know a beautiful women like her! then start talking and give her your number! be sure to get her number too!

Answer 7

im gonna wait because these anwsers are gonna help me too