2006-08-15 11:36:28 · 10 answers · asked by shamira 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont really like my boyfriend hanging with friends n family, but they r immaure n try to get him involved in things that lead him to jail r dead and we have a 8 mon baby. he spends all his time with us after work everyday but so do i. he goes out sometimes but they r really a pain. do u think he will leave me cause he feels trapped. i feel he should be happy with us
2006-08-15 11:38:57 · update #1
I agree with the above answer. Hang in there
2006-08-15 11:42:11 · answer #1 · answered by Emma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By putting the "cart before the horse"(having a baby with a guy that that you think you know, but are not married to),would better be summed up as immature, and naive, rather than selfish! Now you have to worry about him choosing you or his friends, and deal with his immature behavior as well. When will girls learn that you can't win and keep a guy just because you have his baby? Many guys feel trapped once the baby is born, even though they may say that they want you to have one. Until he puts that wedding ring on your finger, you don't know if he is lying or not!
2006-08-15 19:04:43 · answer #2 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If his friends and family are leading him into trouble that lead to jail, talk, don't yell or cry, try to be matter of fact. He's not setting a good example for the child, who, at this time should be both of yours main concern. As care-takers, parents and role models. Sadly, in this world though not being married makes it easier for him to leave if does feel trapped. Even being married isn't a guarantee for anything of a happy ending. Like I said above, let him know that going to jail or getting in trouble isn't "cool" he's got responsibility he needs to live up to.
2006-08-15 18:46:37 · answer #3 · answered by crzychca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that your boyfriend shouldn't have time with his friends, but he needs to ask himself if these guys are really friends?? I mean you make his friends sound like some immature trouble makers. Is that what he sees himself as???
You and your partner both need some time for yourself and your friends, but your friends should be people who help you be better persons. If you swim with the sharks, then that means that you're probably one yourself.
2006-08-15 18:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he does need friends but he needs to be with you more than ever now and if he is feeling trapped what happens when the second comes around... you probable should cut him some slack but if they are bad *** friends, drag him down then he is hurting the you and the little one.
2006-08-15 18:46:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't see why it's a problem.
it's not like he goes out all the time and neglect u and the baby.
and u can't keep him away from his friends especially not from his family.
but if they're asking him to do stuff that might hurt him then maybe you should talk to him.
2006-08-15 18:47:45 · answer #6 · answered by bubbly_nanie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand u but look u can't keep him from his family and friends i'm sure he has a mind of his own and knows right from wrong he's a grown man u can't tell him who he can or can hang around with
2006-08-15 18:41:57 · answer #7 · answered by grant_lilmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would talk to him about your concerns- maybe you two can come to a compromise- he has to know how you feel. you can even save his life
2006-08-15 18:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone needs to have friends. if you try to keep him away from them he will start to resent you.
2006-08-15 18:40:36 · answer #9 · answered by dragonfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
support him but tell him ur worried about him. let him be confedent and make his own desition.
2006-08-15 18:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋