ok so i have a crush on two guys right now(nick and mike)...and i've known for a couple weeks that nick actually likes me and we have been on a couple dates...i do like him but i like mike better but the reason i didnt go for mike was because he just told me last night that he has feelings for me..i would have made a move on him sooner but i didnt know how he felt and i didnt want to make a fool out of myself cause i'm a very self-consious person and i dont go for guys unless i know for sure that they like me...i dont wanna hurt nick but i like mike better and we have more in common and we know a lot more about each other already...i dont know wat to do cause i'm torn between two guys i really like and they both like me back and i really dont wanna hurt either one of them...nick doesnt know that i like mike and vice versa...i dont know wat to do..i could really use some help
(please no rude or mean comments)
2006-08-15 11:35:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go out with both and hope they dont know each other do not have them at ur apt.. or house tho u meet them u will know intime whos better in all the ways u need that person.. ur not engaged so u can go out with many be safe and know what u want or dotn want.. stick to a guidline of what u need and want.. sometimes lust and looks is nice but u wouldnt want to live with them forever or perhaps u cant trust them to help u in a bind etc.. loyality morals sincerity and showing affection is a good list..
2006-08-15 11:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's what i would do, back off both of them for a week or so. Just tell Nick you want to cool it for a while because of school starting up, or work is stressful. Then just let it be. Still be with both of them, as friends,and see what happens. If one still persists, or both, or neither, then you go form there. If both persist, it's easy to say no to one or the other because you technically haven't been with either of them, and it wont hurt them. You follow? And if neith continue to "have feelings", then you knwo ti wasn't meant to be, or that things wouldnt have worked out even if you went out wiht bthem in the firstb place?
I'm not sure i said it all clearly, but, just think about what the worst outcome could be. Think through all possibilities.
2006-08-15 11:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by Karlene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go withthe one you like the most, especially if you dated him first. You really need to get to know someone for awhile before you make decisions that may come back to haunt you, be careful, in your decisions.Boys many times are not true, as they might come across, and they say, sometimes you dont get to really know someone, until you live or marry with them....You are young, if your age is 17, and have along way to go in choosing the right mate for life, unless you want to chance divorce with two kids........ take your time, and get to know them, you might find they slip up, and sometimes when the quest is obtained by them, you are no longer on his list after he decides to go on to the next.
2006-08-15 11:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by zuriel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just follow your heart, like the others said. Don't think of, call, or talk to either of them for a week. whoever you miss more is the one you choose. How to break it to the other guy...not sure. just try to keep him as a friend. He can be valuable as a friend.
2006-08-15 11:58:29 · answer #4 · answered by WolfMage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know these don't really matter but who's cuter, who likes you more,who've you known longer and how do you think is better for you. There are plenty of questions you need to ask yourself before you can be in that relationship.
2006-08-15 11:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow ur heart. explain to the other that you want to give this one a try and if it dont work out then he'll have a chance and tell him u still want to be friends for now.
2006-08-15 11:43:37 · answer #6 · answered by emilybailey1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for nick. I see it like this never leave or go with some one you like for someone you love because that someone you like will leave you for someone he loves. Follow your heart.
2006-08-15 11:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep dating both guys -- you aren't torn, you just don't know which one you like better.
if one of them wants you to choose, then he better be the stellar man and proove it.
unless one of them can clearly stand out as the choice man, just date both of them. and if they have a problem, then tell the guy to proove to you why you need to pick him.
2006-08-15 11:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by asiaasisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IM TORN BETWEEN THE TWO CAUSE I ONLY WANNA BE WITH YOU OOHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
(lol i accually started singing that)
2006-08-15 11:40:31 · answer #9 · answered by not me but you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have no other choice but to decide whom you love most...it is a certainty that you will hurt the other one but you can't do otherwise...
2006-08-15 11:53:11 · answer #10 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋