Ok, there's a girl I met online through another online friend. We've IM'ed each other until the wee hours the last two nights. I like talking with her and she seems really cool. At the end of our conversation last night I told her I'd like to meet her for real and she said yes. I've never even entertained the thought of meeting someone from online before. Is this acceptable now? and if so what's the best way to go about it?
2006-08-15 11:31:41 · 13 answers · asked by Big Thinker 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, to answer the first part of your question..Yes there are many ways to meet people (aside from being online). First , you have to get away from the computer. If you go to the mall, the movies, amusement parks, you're bound tohave better luck meeting people who would be interested in meeting you because at places like those, people are entertaining themselves and usually are having a good time and are more apt to meeting people too. For instance, when you are online, you are definately less inhibited, I mean you don't worry much about what the other will think of you because you know you've never met them in person, and if you wanted you could drop the conversation /link to them anytime. When you meet people in real life, we worry about so many things..our appearance, our speaking habits, our gestures and behavior andwe worry about putting our foot in our mouth and mostly, being rejected. Just learn to talk to people in real life, the way you do online...try to relax and just..speak to them. ......It helps.
For the second part of your question:
Seeing how you haven't been speaking to the girl online for very long, and wanting to meet her already will just lead to dissapointment (for the most part). What I mean to say is...you have both been on your "best" behavior so far, you haven't seen eachother in person, you couldn't have possibly learned enough about eachother to keep you interested for more than 10 minutes face to face....so in my opinion, if you are planning to meet her anytime soon or at all... talk on the phone more, see how she reacts in a more spontaneous situation ..instead of giving her timr to think up answers she gives to you...OK, well good luck and get out and meet people! :)
(sorry about sounding like a therapist)LOL
2006-08-15 11:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let at least 3 adults know where you are going and when you plan on returning and the other person the same.
If they live a long ways from you, make sure to have a specific route to take if you are driving and give it to at least 3 different people. If either of you are under 18, bring at least two adults with you.
Meet in a public place and do not go private anywhere until you've met the parents (if under 18) or until you can find a place of privacy yet close to other people.
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2006-08-15 11:41:57 · answer #2 · answered by aguyinthewoods 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you're actually going to meet, it would be better to suggest bringing friends along...people feel more comfortable around their friends, also, meet in a very public place..you never know about people online, so you have to be very careful...suggest the mall or somewhere where people would notice if things weren't going the right way. Good luck & be careful!!
2006-08-15 11:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by spaceyinla 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's over 18, right? If so, read on.
Well, meet somewhere public and neutral. That's the best advice I can give. Just have your guard up as what people say they are online often does not match up in person.
2006-08-15 11:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by fugutastic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i cant really tell you much cept thats how i met my fiance we met on myspace through a random message when i was going to see him i was so unsure but when i met him face to face it was like we known each other for years but maybe u should try talking to that girl on the phone and see if she is still the same person you never know the internet and if you still want to see her i say go for you may be missing something great if u dont
2006-08-15 11:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by renachi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiancee and I met online four years ago. After chatting online, we progressed to telephone calls. About 1 week later, we agreed to meet at a local hotel for dinner-- I did tell my friends where I was going and with whom... just in case. BTW, we're getting married in two weeks! :o) Good luck to you!
2006-08-15 11:38:34 · answer #6 · answered by wahine 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Meet in a public place(,do not give your address over the net ) like a mall or a restaurant
2006-08-15 11:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by pycosal 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i advise you not to go but if you do go with an adult but really there has been alot goin on with kids meeting online friends bad stuff so do the right thing all i can do is tell you but it is your choice to listen
2006-08-15 11:37:30 · answer #8 · answered by sexy love 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah definitely meet in a public place, maybe bring someone along with you just to be safe, because you never know.
2006-08-15 11:36:55 · answer #9 · answered by malkin_to_the_pens 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she agreed to see you then there's should be something of excitement in you...there's nothing wrong to know her in real...if and only when you are not committed yet to anybody...
2006-08-15 11:38:22 · answer #10 · answered by chona a 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋