I am scared of being alone. I constantly need a person to be emotionally close to me.?

Question

i cant stand it when i am by my self because i get so depressed and hate what is in my head.
how do i stop thinking this way and enjoy time alone?

i already take meds for depression.

and yes sometimes i am afraid i might harm myself

Answer 1

i am alone a lot more than with friends or family. i got used to it, i used to hate it, too and now i am learning to enjoy time with myself.

i was on medication for depression and anxiety, too and all i can say is be careful of the side effects, they could be very serious and destructive to your future health if you take them for too long.

remember there are many people who feel like you, no matter if you didn't meet them or people never talk about this problem.

you need to change how you talk to yourself everyday and start to tell yourself that you love yourself now as you are no matter what crap is going on. that is what i do now and it works, but like all things it will take time.

also, for those who believe in it, prayer works even if it takes time, a long time.

i hope i didn't write too much and that i was a bit helpful

Answer 2

What is in your head? What should be there is that you're a strong, confident person who can be alone and survive in this world. As you grow, you will find that time alone can be so rewarding. Think of the things you can do by yourself as a gift - activities such as reading a book, taking a walk in the park or working out. Think of the joy you'll feel not having to entertain someone. These activities will only benefit you and your well being. When marriage and family come into your life, time alone can be scarce and you will one day wish for those moments of solitude. I know it's hard, but don't see time alone as time spent being depressed - think of it as time well spent.

Answer 3

The hardest part of becoming a whole human being is learning to live with yourself. You have to learn to be comfortable in your own skin, then you will enjoy your "alone" time. Listen to music. Read a book. Heck, WRITE a book. Keep a journal.

I love my man, but I love my alone time. Whenever you're feeling lonely and despondent, just jump on here. Read and answer questions. It's a nice feeling of community and belonging. Keep working at it, and it will get better for you. Good luck.

Answer 4

find something to do when your alone that takes you out of your head....do something for someone or even just something that is fast paced. In reality we all spend alot of time alone and you need to be comfortable with the true you. Get off your own back a little--i bet your a great young lady if you give yourself a chance. Be as happy when your alone -as with other people--and others will naturally flock your way!

Answer 5

You might be happier if you work on your relationship with yourself.

You are good company and a good person, you need to remind yourself of that every day. Maybe start small and try to find something fun to do for maybe just 15 minutes alone and see how you do. Slowly increase the time spent alone and see how that works.

Answer 6

If you are taking medications for depression, it is likely that you are seeing a psychiatrist. I would strongly recommend seeing a psychologist who will help you to change the way you think about negative events. I may sound like a broken record, but I cannot stress enough that a cognitive-behavioral therapist would be your absolute best bet. The effectiveness of CBT for depression is near 90%, and the patients for whom this is effective will attest to the wonders that CBT has done for their lives.

Answer 7

Perhaps you need counseling. Needy people don't tend to make good partners or friends, unless the person they hook up with is one of those who "needs to be needed" (kind of a codependent situation).

Why do you dislike being alone? What bothers you about it? Alone and lonely are not the same thing...do you feel lonely when alone?

When you are comfortable with yourself as a single person...and can handle being alone just fine...when you don't really care if you are in a relationship or not (it would be kewl, but you're also kewl with being single) is when you'll make a good partner for someone...because you'll be with them because you want to be, not because you feel like you need to be...

I don't want to be needed...I want to be wanted...that's SO MUCH more flattering...

Answer 8

Well, you owe it to yourself to look into whether you might have a chemical imbalance. These can sometimes be corrected with a change of diet or, potentially, with medication. Some people make fun of drugs such as Prozac, but there are situations where it can be helpful.

Answer 9

do something you like.
for example I like video game, so when I'm alone, I play video game
but you're girl, probably like go shopping, go to mall look at clothes whenever you feel alone
think positive, think all the good thing, think that thing could be worse
for example: you could be alone and live in iraq, you could be alone and live in somalia where there're a lot of hunger problem
but fortunately you don't live in iraq, you have food, yay!
also you are actually never alone, God always watching over you.

Answer 10

You didn't say what was in your head. Are you afraid of dying or doing something harmful to yourself? You might check with your doctor to see if you are suffering from anxiety. It's not healthy to be afraid of being alone.