romance and kill the spirit of mutual desire".I want some out here to convince me otherwise.Is anyone up for it?
2006-08-15 11:15:30 · 29 answers · asked by Abinobi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You guys arent meant to be together than. Neither her nor your opinions on marriage will ever change. She will keep on you to ask her until you do, trust me.
2006-08-15 11:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by ALittleLight 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well Don Juan, so you wine & dine your lady, bring her gifts; she cooks fabulous meals for you and is at your beck & call? You or she are never tired or busy. You just drop down and "do it" whenever the urge strikes, right?
Your chicken sh*t. You're afraid of the mundane of everyday life. You think that by not saying 'I Do" you will be able to live out this fantasy of yours. Similiar to Peter Pan, not wanting to grow up.
I don't know how old you are or how long you have been with your lady. But if you have no intentions of committing to this girl, then cut her loose. She wants marriage & if you aren't willing to give it to her, or can't, you are being very cruel & selfish.
No ceremony guarentees a successful marriage. But willingly & mutually making this commitment to make a marriage together is what it's all about. That thru thick & thin you will go it together.
I don't think you're up for that
2006-08-15 12:45:29 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly I don't agree that marriage spoils true romance and desire, that depends on the couple, some chose to keep these things very much alive. I really don't wan to convince you that you should marry your girlfriend as I don't think you truly love her ( if you did you would want to marry her ). I am amazed that she is nagging you to marry her, is she that desperate as to beg? It's so degrading and I can't imagine anything more off putting for a guy.
2006-08-15 19:36:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's how you feel then you haven't met the right person. What a great way to make your girlfriend feel like crap. No one should have to "convince" you that marriage doesn't spoil romance. You poor girlfriend needs to find a man that wants to marry her because he can't live without her not because a stranger on the Internet "convinced" him marriage was a good thing. Geeze people these days!!
2006-08-17 14:07:18 · answer #4 · answered by kami m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage does change your relationship. Romance does die, but not the spirit of mutual desire. Those things are the elements of young love. Mature love is something born out of the ashes of romance. You'll love her for different reasons once you get married. The partner she is for you, the fact that you know her like you know yourself, the way she holds your child, and the way she loves you when you feel like the rest of your world is out of work. She'll be your anchor when the sea is rough, and your lighthouse in the dark. If those things aren't good enough for you, then you need to make a choice. She probably isn't the girl for you. You'll find someone that you will want to marry one day, and won't be able to imagine your life without her. If you can't see yourself in a committed life long relationship with this girl, you need to cut her loose and let her find someone else. Stop playing around and making excuses. You aren't being fair to her, or yourself.
2006-08-15 11:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage actually enhances romance and increases mutual desire. It is about committing to a person fully and without reservation. By doing so you become closer to them on a spiritual level than you ever before. After all, if your in a relationship and living together already then the reality is that marriage doesn't change anything except on a spiritual and legal level. There for your argument doesn't hold water.
2006-08-15 11:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by rkrell 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're just afraid of committment.You probably feel that you will be "tied down" forever. Marriage is a special bond between two people who love each other and vow to spend the rest of their lives together. there is nothing wrong with marriage, it doesn't make or break a relationship. if there are 2 people who are willing to make the marriage work, then it will.
2006-08-15 11:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by Lana L. 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you're rationalizing an excuse for yourself with the "Marriage spoils true romance and kills the spirit of mutual desire" line - because that's a crock.
Just tell her you don't want to get married, because the idea doesn't appeal to you. Don't go denigrating the institution of marriage in general because of YOUR personal feelings towards it.
You get out of it what you put into it. If you go in with the idea of "Marriage sucks and I'm just doing it to make her happy" guess what? It will suck for you. But only because of your attitude, not because of marriage itself.
2006-08-15 12:22:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I shouldn't have to convince you of *anything*. If you don't want to get married, then have the ba[[s to tell her that - don't make up pithy little sayings that don't apply to real life. If you don't love her, then don't marry her. If you don't want to get married, figure out why and go from there. To me it sounds like you are right for not wanting to get married - you are immature and don't know why you should buy the cow if the milk is free. I say split up now and when you are ready to settle down, someone will come along.
2006-08-15 12:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A paper does not spoil anything. It is YOU and your way of thinking that ruins this whole thing. Why are you afraid of getting married? If you cannot answer that, then I see no reason for not getting married. If you find an answer but are able to solve it, you are on the right way ... If you find an answer, and you cannot, or do not want to solve it, than you should find another person, who makes you feel like getting married... I did the same with my ex, and I am preparing for my wedding with my fiance. We have been together for 5 years now... wish you the same!
2006-08-15 11:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by andycica 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she were the right one for you, you'd love the idea of committing yourself to her for the rest of your life. You'd know your love life could take it. You don't marry someone unless enough time has passed for you to know that you'll both truly enjoy each other's company and bodies forever. A good wife is the one who knows how to keep her man happy and home.
2006-08-15 11:24:50 · answer #11 · answered by Molly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋