Gifts for engagement party, bridal shower, and Wedding?

Question

My cousin is getting married. Are you supposed to give a gift for (each) an engagement party, bridal shower, and wedding?

Answer 1

Yes you should have a gift at each event. The engagement party is the only iffy present needed event depending how the event is set up. Sometimes it can be a lot to gift, on a tight budget. To keep the costs down I get something small for any prewedding events that will tie into my larger wedding gift. So if I get a pot and pan set as a wedding gift, at the shower I might give trivets, hotpads or spoons.....

Answer 2

Normally for the engagement party you just give a best wishes card. For the bridal shower a gift, depending on the theme, and for the wedding you also bring a gift or a card with a gift cert. in it or $$, up to you.

Answer 3

You give a gift at either the engagement party or the bridal shower, but there is no need for both. Instead write a note of congratulations at the other event. Or, you could do something like a spice rack for the engagement party and a set of your favorite recipes at the bridal shower if you don't want to come empty handed.

You also need to give a separate gift at the wedding itself. It can be expensive, but you can make it smaller or part of a theme (like with the spice rack and recipe cards you could get a set of mixing bowls or frying pans).

Good Luck!

Answer 4

Yes, You should give a gift at any party that you attend and should probably forward one if you are invited and can't attend.

For the engagement party, I'd run to Trader Joe's (if you are in the US and have one nearby) and get a bottle of Mirabelle champagne. It's around $15 and is a perfect engagement gift.

For the bridal shower, I'd find out what type of party it's going to be. If it's going to be fun, then get her something from Victoria's Secret. If it's going to be family and you can't give her her present in private, get her a bottle of massage oil and a massage book.

For the wedding, get something off the registry and have it sent to her home.

Answer 5

Gifts are NEVER a requirement at ANY time.

The ONLY exception to that rule is that if you choose to attend a shower, you must bring a phsyical gift (not $ or giftcards), even if the gift is very small or handmade.

So if you attend the shower, yes, you have to gift. You gift for the wedding only if you choose to (and you do NOT bring your gift to the wedding or reception- you ship it to the bride ahead of time).

Engagement parties do not normally involve gifts but a few folks might bring them anyways.

Answer 6

That is what is done traditionally. Usually for an engagement you can just give a card depending on the couple's culture. For example, Italian engagement parties require monetary gifts. If you cant afford to give money for each event just talk the bride./groom, and possibly buy them a really good gift for the wedding.

Answer 7

Yes you are suppose to get a gift for all three of them engagement party,bridal shower and wedding.That way it wont look bad if you just give one gift.get three differnt gifts.One for there honeymoon.and one for there home,and the last one should be something she can wear on her wedding night. good luck

Answer 8

for an engagement party... give her a card. there are no expectations for gift giving at an engagement party.

at a bridal shower... yes. you should bring her a gift based upon the theme of the shower.

wedding. yes.

Answer 9

Some couples troll for gifts. The bridal shower and wedding (if you attend) is really all that is required. If you don't attend, then no gift required.

Answer 10

Well, if you like your cousin, then my answer is definitely yes. But it does not have to be anything big, it is even better if you make something special. A photo montage from childhood pics, or a little pillow from all kinds of materials which were special in your life. Anything goes, and she will know that you really care. All the rest of her gifts are only bought by money... yours should come from the heart.