I was wondering how i can be more sexual with my bf. We've been dating for a year, and we only hae sex once a week, which is not enough for him. He wonders why I am not more "open" to having more intercourse, though I really enjoy it, and lover him as well. From the comparisons to other people my age (20), they have sex many times during the week. I know this isn't normal-- but what can be the problem? I also don't like French Kissing which really bothers him, and he feels as though I don't show my affection sexually. Others times , like if we are out in the street, I hug him alot, but I just can't seem to feel more sexual. What can the problem be, and hopw can I naturally increase my sex drive? It appears as if it really bothers him, and he always makes a big deal out of this.
2006-08-15 11:10:05 · 6 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I do find him attractive. If I didn't i wouldn be having sex with him. He's got a great personality as well...
2006-08-15 11:21:17 · update #1
No, not really. You have to tell yourself the truth and stop lieing to yourself. Are you even attracted to him??? It sounds like you don't find him attractive.... that's what friends are for, not intimacy with someone you love and are attracted to.
2006-08-15 11:19:45 · answer #1 · answered by devildollbaby 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like part of the problem is that he makes such a big deal out of it. I think he is making you even more self conscious than you already are. First off, there are lots of people out there that don't like french kissing and it has nothing to do with them not liking their partners or lack of sexual affection. Second, a relationship is not all about sex and should not be judged by the amount of sex or the style of sex. It almost seems like he is more concerned about the sex than the actual relationship and building a future with you. This only leads you to over think things and pull away more. He needs to take time to learn what you like, what makes you feel sexy, what turns you on and stimulates you. Sex isn't something that just happens and you should be up and ready for it all the time. The problem may be he just doesn't inspire your sexual drive. Beyond that you should simply take time to explore your feelings about sex and figure out what your looking for. There are some people who enjoy sex but believe there is more to life and simply aren't as sexually active. There is nothing wrong with that, you just have to find a partner who matches up with you and feels the same way.
2006-08-15 18:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what you need? You need to make yourself feel sexy (I am not advocating sex before marriage, but I do believe in healthy relationships). Do you hair, put on some makeup that you don`t wear every day, get some black lengerie, put on some perfume. Even try doing some of those things daily (like wearing nice lenigerie under your work clothes).f you feel beautiful and confident in yourself, your sex drive will increase. Promise.
2006-08-15 18:18:59 · answer #3 · answered by ALittleLight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guilt has a tendency to kill sexual relationships. I'll bet you were raised in a family that looked down on sexual trysts before marriage. Sex is still reserved for marriage when all the inhibitions are gone. You still have inhibitions (and rightfully so).
2006-08-15 18:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by snddupree 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that he has a problem and you have to talk it out.
2006-08-15 18:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by malroymck 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you had a orgasm yet?
2006-08-15 18:19:43 · answer #6 · answered by Joonseo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋