Does aznybody have any suggestions on how to get your 16yo to be civil to his family?

Answer 1

Lay down the law, if he doesn't tow the line on family/household rules, show him the door. You don't have to support a jerk in the home.

Answer 2

The most important thing to remember is that while they are growing into EARLY adulthood, you are still the parent. Teenagers need to be taught and reminded that they need to earn their respect from us. Part of earning our respect, trust and privleges is by them showing that they deserve them. It is very difficult to remind those budding egos that they are part of a family unit and as a part of the family unit they are to treat everyone from mom and dad right down to the pesky little sibbling with the courtesy and respect. Of course we are all not going to get along all the time. However, there are acceptable ways to work out conflict or unhappiness that are productive. Bottom line is if they want to be treated more and more as an adult, they need to show they can behave as such (not saying some adults can't act right either), but you are still the parent who has the ability to little by little add or remove rights and privleges, and when earned and appropriate, give responsibilities

Answer 3

I went through this with my three teenagers, and it was certainly no picnic! They think their friends and them have all the answers, and us parents, know NOTHING! If you say something which you think is helpful, they think you are just critical, and rebel! Then they only tell you what you want to hear, instead of where they are really going, or how late they will be out, or if they will be drinking and driving. I would not sleep till I would hear the key in the door at night. Then, if you ask any questions, you are intruding, and they say they are going to bed, and are too tired to talk! Mine now are out of that stage, THANK GOODNESS!, but I pity other parents that are going through the whole thing. I could tell you plenty, but I don't have time to write a novel! Take care, and PRAY ALOT!

Answer 4

I don't have the time, or patience for a 16 yr old thinking he's the king of the family. I brought up my girls, and taught them respect at a very early age, so, trying to answer this question just makes me feel like I'd smack him into reality. I've seen so many kids treat their parents like crap. I feel bad for you. I'd just rip his head off, until he smartened up. Good Luck. I know my answer isn't that great, but I detest disrespect.~

Answer 5

I have a 16 year old. I think it's a faze that most teens go threw. Mine is driving me crazy. Thinks he knows it all, not being civil. Just hold on, love them, and know this too shall pass.

Answer 6

I wish I knew!! I know that I have 2 kids in early twenties, they went thru that phase, and they out grew it. I have a 17 yr old, and she is obnxious and rude. We have tried everything, and she is still rude to me. I treat her like an adult, I respect her and her privacy;I just don't get it.I am just gritting my teeth, in hopes that she will outgrow it-like her siblings did.

Answer 7

By treating him like an adult, not a child. Just keep your patience. The second he knows you losing your cool, he`s found the right button to push.

Answer 8

Ugh, learn to spell, that may help.

It's hard to say, it depends on the situation. But I'd say don't give into him, not matter how upset he gets, stay persistent on his punishments, show him whose in charge, but don't like beat him or anything.

Answer 9

Tell them if they have nothing constructive or nice to say- to keep their opinions to themselves. Failing THAT; tell them you'll help them move to the Shelter of their choice- whenever they're ready. They don't have to live- where you're not wanted.

Answer 10

punish him when he is not and reward him when he is. Wow so complicated. Set rules and guide lines and don't waver from them.

In all reality it is to late for drastic changes you already done messed up raising your kid. Good job.