OK....before we were married I thought he was a good Christian guy. Now that we are married he seems to think it's allright if there is a lady with her breasts showing! (ok maybe it's not porno...but it is) He tells me "well I'm not touching her or seeing it in real life" it really bothers me even though I know he's not going to cheat on me. I've told him how I feel..but he still does it. I always try to look on the movie box to see the rating and why it's rated that way..but some how he managed to slip one in and I didn't notice.
2006-08-15 10:57:43 · 27 answers · asked by hambone1985 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
you mean to tell me you are ok if your man sees another girls boobs? Isn't that the whole point of marriage so that you are the only ones that see eachother like that!!!!??? What if a penis was to be shown in a movie? Would you want your wife seeing that?
2006-08-15 14:32:46 · update #1
Men are sexually stimulated by sight-whether they are christian or heathen. A married man has no business looking at some woman's breasts, even on TV. You need to put a stop to this if your husband is worth keeping. If he is not worth it-just run him off.
2006-08-15 11:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by Terrence J 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You wrote "I thought he was a good Christian guy" and "ok maybe it's not porno...but it is". You're evidently undecided. The problem is not religion or your husband's behavior. Rather its your repressed sexuality.
Join your husband in the fun. Most men welcome and find very arousing a woman who enjoys sex and shares an interest in porn (if that is what you're asking about). If you are referring to a simple R rated movie with frontal nudity then your concern is less of an issue.
You can make this a very good thing to share and enjoy with your husband or you can vilify your partner and put and undue strain on your relationship.
P.S. You can't talk someone out of doing something they like. Counseling is a waste of time and causes resentment.
A man doesn't cheat because he saw some girl's boobs at a strip show. A man cheats because he's a cheater or because he's not strong enough to end a bad relationship.
2006-08-15 11:14:22 · answer #2 · answered by rvera99 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh if you really love him you'll let him watch . A marriage is not a death sentence.What exactly does he FORBID you to do do that you find really enjoyable that you can do in private that wont hurt him. . Probably just ask him not to do it when you are not around and just to not talk about it. then you need try accept a don't ask don't tell policy. Be glad he is not at at a strip club, that is where he will go next if you keep busting his balls, and that will be more $$$ too. So If you are home watching a soap and your husband is not home and a hot guy comes on the TV with no shirt on you change the channel, I really doubt it! Just because he was some body 10 years ago doesn't mean he will be frozen in time that way.
2006-08-15 11:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by Patrick Bateman 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't like what you consider porn. Bare breasts? As long as that stuff isn't in front of the kiddies. You're both adults and unless he starts panting like a dog whenever he sees boobies, don't worry about it. Some rated R movies are good but have some annoying female nudity in them. They're hard to escape.
PS- I don't think people are reading the entire question. I think she's talking about movies with just nudity in them. Not naked people humping (porn).
2006-08-15 11:08:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jp83 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If my husband wants to watch porn I let him. I see no problem with that. I know he's not going anywheres and if it makes him happy to every once in awhile watch some on TV or read/look at a magazine no problem. And just for a frame of reference he is a christian and I am the atheist.
2006-08-15 11:07:58 · answer #5 · answered by genaddt 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just heard an example of this on the Dave Ramsey Talk Show.
Get you two to counseling.
It's not good for either of you. It'll become an addiction for him and it'll be demeaning for you.
But since you haven't really found porn yet, I'm not sure if you should go that yet.
Maybe you should get advice from a councilor then approach him with with what the councilor suggests.
2006-08-15 11:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by rangedog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, aren't we the little prude. I'm kinda confused about where the lady with breasts showing came from. You were just watching a movie and there was a topless woman in it? Seriously, that's it? Face it, all straight guys like to see topless girls. Just because you don't want him to like it doesn't mean he can change that.
2006-08-15 11:07:05 · answer #7 · answered by Phil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not porn. Get Where the Boys Aren't volumes 1-14 with Jenna Jameson now thats top notch porn. Watch it with him.
Don't be a prude!
2006-08-15 11:05:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are both adults and I'm sure you both know what a boob looks like. Relax life is too short to sweat this kind of stuff. If it really bothers you that much maybe you should show him yours more often and then he wouldn't have to watch dirty movies.
2006-08-15 11:06:58 · answer #9 · answered by nonameforme 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your husband wants to see porn, get a camcorder! It's more fun when you make it yourself ;-).
And stop being such a stick in the mud. I'm sure he's old enough to watch a rated R movie. I'm sure he's not seeing/learning anything new.
2006-08-15 11:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by Cool-K 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋