Help! me please anyone!?

Question

My mom thinks I am fat and I am going into the 8th grade, I'm 13 and 5 foot and 105 pounds. And it drives me crazy! She's always telling me I shoule do things to lose wieght. In school I do A LOT of sports too. But, am I fat? And how do I tell me mom in the nicest way that I am happy about my weight. And for her to stop nagging me. I tell her all the time but, she still doesnt stop! Please help me.

And once in a while I do get a little treat. Like an icecream cone *wink*

Answer 1

Fist of all im glad that you know that you are not fat because anyother girl would all like oh my gosh im so fat! Just tell you mom mother i am very comfortable about my weight and you should be happy for me cause I could be 5 foot and 200lbs but im not and please just stop telling me that im fat because I know im not! Hope that helped yomie:)

Answer 2

First of all, I have to commend you on having a positive view of yourself. It's hard enough to be objective about your body when half of Hollywood is running around looking like stick figures. It's even more difficult when someone you're close to makes negative/upsetting remarks about your weight.

You should tell your mom that you have something important that you need to talk to her about. Explain that it really hurts your feelings when she makes comments to you, and that being HEALTHY is more important than weight. Let her know that your weight is in the normal range for your height and age, and that you're involved in activities that help you stay fit.

Furthermore, you could tell her that you look to her for support, and that you're happy with your weight. Ask her why she thinks it's so important that you lose weight, because you feel great about yourself and are getting plenty of exercise.

Often, when parents focus on these types of things regarding their children, it actually has a lot more to do with the parents' insecurities. It might help to ask your mom how she feels about her weight right now, and whether she had problems with weight in grade school. She might just be overly-sensitive because she doesn't want you to struggle with weight like she did (if that's the case).

I'm really sorry to hear that you're dealing with this. It's so difficult to be a teenager and I hope that you can keep up a positive self-image. You sound like a smart and sweet girl, and I hope that everything works out for you.

PS If you're feeling intimidated about bringing this up with your mom, you could tell her that you weren't sure how to approach the subject and would like her to see what other people had to say. Showing her some of the answers on here might help you two to have an open, honest conversation - since you have lots of opinions from people who aren't directly involved in your situation.

Answer 3

Your weight is fine. Mom should try to encourage you in a positive way. You are at that tender age where she should not let you have a complex about your weight. Tell her in a nice way how it makes you feel when she tells you how ever she does it. Let her know that it doesn't make you feel good about the way she goes about telling you and that you are happy with your weight.

You are too young to get caught up in the diet craze. You are in sports at school that should help you to keep down your weight. Sounds as if you are an active teen. That is good! if she wants to help you maintain a good weight, she can also help by preparing healthy meals and be very selective about what she buys and bring in the house when she goes grocery shopping. The fact that you are active should help you to keep a good weight as you get older.

Tell her a big part of that is what you are eating and that is where mom comes in buying and preparing healthy-wholesome meals. Ttry to eat healthy (no junk) and keep active as you are doing now. You will be fine. Good luck telling her. Be nice it's good to maintain a good mother-daughter relationship so please open up to her and hopefully she will be more tactful so you always feel like you can have good discussions with her and not seek it else where. God bless you and mom

Answer 4

I'm not sure what a young girl age and height should weigh.. but I will share this with you.. stay active, cut out all or most, unhealthy snacks.. and things made with white flour (use wheat instead, or half wheat/half white). Eat veggies and fresh fruits for snacks, low calorie/low fat yogurts.. Maybe get in the habit of eating 1500 calories.. maybe more, depending on how active you are.
For your health...
Being over weight can cause you to have diabetes.. not a good thing to have sweetie. I have it.
Remind yourself and your mom, that you're not fat.. but do make a promise to eat more healthy, and be active.. maybe even ask that your mom join you in this new life change.
I hate the word diet.. and for the record, even at 5'6" - 117 to 125 pounds, my mom still insists that I need to lose weight.. and I'm a grandma!
Liking yourself is always - ALWAYS - a good thing!

Answer 5

If your Mom is so worried about your wieght meet with your doctor and have him break the news to your mother that you are a healthy, young girl. If you would like to convice yourself or your mother, go to this site and enter in the info. It might just help!

http://apps.nccd.cdc.gov/dnpabmi/Calculator.aspx

Answer 6

When you go for your next physical, talk to your dr. about how much body fat vs. muscle that you have. Also ask about your skeleletal frame size, and bone density.

Someone who is very athletic with a medium frame,and dense bones will be heavier on the scale, than a small framed,athletic, low bone density person.

In dealing with your mother hopefully whatever the dr. tells you should get her off your back.

Good luck with things:)

Answer 7

well if you are 5 ft and 105 you are not fat don't let any one say you are and for your mother just tell her you are ok and happy the way you are if she continues that is a form of abuse talk to your teachers about it. hope this helps.

Answer 8

You sound about right- to me. Maybe your Mom has a few weight issues of her OWN- & she's just projecting her concerns onto you. As long as you keep out of McDonald's; get lots of excersize & sleep- you should be fine. Tell your mother that you love her- & that you're keeping on "eye" on things. It's YOUR body- & if it works for YOU- treat it with respect (maybe eventually- your mother will- too).

Answer 9

5 foot and 105..... ur not fat. As long as your happy with yourself , thats all that matters. If your mom doesnt like it then tough. Its your body and your life. hope that help. good luck

Answer 10

This is one time you may have to ignore your mother. You know you are staying active and are not fat. It sounds like you know the truth that you are beautiful. You may have to sit down with her and explain to her that you love her but that she is hurting your feelings by the things she says so that if you do have to start ignoring her on this issue that she'll know why. But don't let her get you depressed and to start thinking bad about yourself.