Here's the deal....I am a 24 year old in law school, which means I don't work much. My brothers are young men that could get a job full time if they wanted. My grandmother gives me money almost every week and doesn't give them any. Somehow I feel guilty. Should I be? Should I refuse the money and label her gestures "favoritism"?
2006-08-15 10:42:00 · 14 answers · asked by darshunk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No don't feel guilty, and don't tell your brothers. That would just lead to resentment. Your grandmother is just reacting to a need. Your brothers don't have the same needs. You can always give them money after you get out of law school and are making good money yourself to make up for what you received from your grandmother, or give back to your grandmother when you get on your feet. Your brothers aren't in law school and they don't need the money. What your grandmother gives you is between you and her. I'd keep it that way.
2006-08-15 11:05:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mary W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is HER reasoning for giving you money?
I would think that this situation could cause some big family problems. Everyone interprets things differently.
If you feel guilty, then maybe you already know the answer.
In my opinion, maybe your grandmother should be helping pay your tuition, then she could do the same should your brothers ever decide to go to college. Then there wouldn't be any question about favoritism.
2006-08-15 10:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by Amy P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your grandmother is giving you money she should by right give them some as well. Your grandmother is being generous to you, but she is creating a bad situation for later on. Secrets eventually transpire, and feelings will be hurt. My grandmother gave my sister a piece of property, and also favored her more. When my grandmother passed on her estate was willed to both of her children. But the only grandchild that benefited before she died was my sister. It created alot of hardships in wondering why grandma did what she did. I Have children and grandchildren of my own. I surely wouldn't treat one more special then the others. I love them all and out of that becomes fairness to all of them. I would still let your brothers know before it is to late. That way they can here it from you right now, then later. Good Luck
2006-08-15 10:56:51 · answer #3 · answered by roseygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably better they don't know. I guess it's up to you to decide if you want to tell them. I wouldn't feel guilty because you are in school and need the money. Your brothers can get a job.
2006-08-15 10:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by maxie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this used to be me not in law school but my grandma gave me money all the time and not my brother. i wouldnt tell your brothers because it will cause hurt and alot of other unwanted feeling for them. If you need the money which it sounds like you do since you are in school i would allow her to help you and when you get on your feet pay her back that way you can get rid of the guilt feelings and all is fair. good luck
2006-08-15 10:49:17 · answer #5 · answered by faithfullyyours 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. You are not selfish. Your grandma is giving you that money because she loves you and knows you are in school and can't go out & work all the time. If you refused it she would be insulted anyway. You don't want to insult grandma do you? Don't tell your brothers and keep thanking grandma.
2006-08-15 10:48:27 · answer #6 · answered by Dubberino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not. Just keep it in the low and don't brag to your bros about it. Your just to busy going to school and well you need the help, unlike your bros who could get a job and be hard workers.
Ciao~
P.S: If you feel guilty then think about it this way. When you start to work then you can pay her back for all the help she has given you.
2006-08-15 11:36:27 · answer #7 · answered by a_cute_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your educating yourself to provide a better living for you. Accept her gifts as they are intended from someone who loves you and respects what you are doing. Then when you graduate and get a job, remember her with anything she needs as she remembered you and your needs.
If your brothers a purely lazy, then they have their reward, tell them nothing. Your grandmother chose you and if anyone else should know, it should her that tells them.
2006-08-15 10:50:23 · answer #8 · answered by Archer Christifori 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOOOO i'm enormously confident your mom does not go with to renowned some thing like that... do no longer tell truthfully absolutely everyone. you do no longer go with to embarrass your grandmother. and soo what if she's turning ninety and nevertheless includes arond condoms, a minimum of she's nevertheless energetic;)
2016-12-11 09:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you might get some enjoyment out of getting some of granny's money and your brothers not!
Why tell them? What's the point of that? Unless of course you like to stir things up!!
Leave it alone. Sounds like you might make a good lawyer!
2006-08-15 10:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by Ilsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋