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2006-08-15 10:37:55 · 37 answers · asked by Jenn 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

For all of you wondering...I'm not in a relationship with anyone right now because I believe that not getting 100% of what I want is settling. I've been told time and time again not to settle. Then it makes me think...how long am I going to be single for if I can't get my 100%?

2006-08-15 11:03:56 · update #1

37 answers

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2006-08-15 10:40:46 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1 0

Yes and No!

I'd say no if the person that you're with doesn't know that you feel as if there not giving there all! you have to be able to communicate with the person you are with!
I'd say yes if after you've expressed your needs and wants and there's still no change or even an effort to change and you still stay your settling!
If your partner is trying to make an effort to make things work then they probably care a lot about you! Just give them a chance!

2006-08-15 10:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by Bunnie 2 · 0 0

You will never get the full 100% that you're after in a relationship....it's just not feasible. So, no, it's not considered settling....now if you're only getting about 25 or 50% of what you want....then you may be settling.....depends on your expectations.

2006-08-15 10:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by tiffany6322 4 · 0 0

You will never get 100% from someone. But as long as they make you feel loved, and you know they are giving you who they really are. What more could you ask for? But you have to do the same for them. It seems to me, if you have to ask. Maybe that person is not for you. Because if you were happy, you would not have to question if your settling or not.

2006-08-15 10:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by Teslajuliet 4 · 0 0

Yeah, it does mean your settling. I could go out and try and get with a girl like Eva Longoria. Let's say I'm unsuccessful. Then i go for a normal college girl and she's not what I expected. And suppose that even if I'm not happy with the way things are going, I stick with her anyway, just for the sake of being with someone. Then I'm settling.

2006-08-15 11:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by Calamity 2 · 0 0

Per Warren, in Date or Soul Mate, you should have a list of 10 Must Have's (kindness, career, clean) and a list of 10 Can't Stands (racist, mean, messy) and then figure in in a couple dates if they meet your standards. You do have to keep your eye open for someone with potential (e.g. no money but is in last year of med school.)

If you are happy with your life, you can be patient for the perfect one.

Relationships are build on a foundation of respect. If you don't respect someone because they don't make enough, or they have a blue collar job, not much can save that relationship.

2006-08-15 10:45:44 · answer #6 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0 0

Nobody is ever going to get 100% of what they want. You have to compromise on certain things. I consider it settling if you dont get the core things YOU need to be happy with the relationship. The things that are most important to you, the things that make you who you are. If you compromise those things then your settling.

2006-08-15 10:43:21 · answer #7 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0 0

I know it's corny, but I heard some great advice about that. You write out two lists, one with all the things you could ever possibly want in a man, and then all of your dealbreakers (things you absolutely can't have in a relationship). Then if you find a person who has no dealbreakers, and at least 80% of the things you want, you pursue that relationship. Never waste even 5 more minutes of your life on a person who had dealbreaking characteristics.

2006-08-15 10:48:33 · answer #8 · answered by Molly 3 · 0 0

Relationships are about being content and growing together. You can't ever get 100% of what you want because you can never give 100% of what the other person needs.

Wouldn't it be horrible if noone ever committed to loving you because they were waiting for you to meet 100% of their wants.

2006-08-15 10:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by LovingFather 2 · 0 0

The only relationship from which you can expect to get 100% is with God. In our human relations what we should seek is an equitable give and take. You give a little, you get a little. When the give and take is a balanced 50-50, that's your 100%!

2006-08-15 10:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yes it means you are cause you are not deciding to get out of it then it means you have made up your mind to deal with the things that you do not like or can't stand, it simply means that you are settling. And there is nothing wrong with that, trust me. Thats what am gonna have to do sometime in the future.

2006-08-15 10:45:10 · answer #11 · answered by sassy_sexy_honey 3 · 0 0

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