Ive been dating a married man. From the start he told me: his marriage was a sham, it was for a green card. Its almost over and he will be divorcing soon." I did not belive him. I started to. He calls me 4 times a day. We go everywhere Ive been to his house and after thoroughly checking for women items, and photos I have found none. His brother is his roomate. After a month of investigating I spent the night w/him. That morning I used his phone since I lost mine, I did not realize i did this but a call came in and I hit the answer button. His wife heard us. She came to his house. He let her in! I said I was a friend. She went biserk, he called the cops, she cut him! I left. He found me walking he apologzed over and over, said she was lying their marriage is fake, she is crazy, he hasnt slept with her in 9 months. Hes putting a restraining order, and he wants me. Not her. I told him take me home. He keeps calling and apologizing, he says he wants me to come back. I want 2 believe him.
2006-08-15 10:36:22 · 6 answers · asked by Romina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He wants to know why I left. He says that we did nothing wrong, the marriage is fake and she had no right to be there. He says I should have stayed! Is he nuts?!
2006-08-15 10:38:24 · update #1
She does know its for card. He said it was an upfront deal, he gaver her 5 thousand. I dont know if that part is true. But I know that SHE at least KNOWS its for card, b/c when they were arguing she said: (I know this b/c I heard her myself) "you can forget about the paper, you can kiss that green card goodbye, b/c Im divorcing your ***!" And she called him a terrorist.
2006-08-15 10:50:31 · update #2
One last thing, i think I should mention. When she first showed up she was yelling:" Where is she, i want to talk to her" He said to her that if she touched me he himself would "f*uck her up." Then she said that she was not going to fight a another woman over him. I was in the bathroom when I heard all of that. I had just gotten out of the shower. So Im wondering why would he speak to his wife that way, if they are in a genuine relationship?
2006-08-15 11:11:50 · update #3
She clearly has a different opinion, doesn't she? He may be using her for citizenship, but she may not be aware of it. This man has no respect for his wife, you, or the sanctity of marriage. How will you ever trust him in your relationship? Get out. Marriage is one thing that does not need a third wheel. You are in the middle of another woman's marriage. It is hurtful, disrespectful, and immoral.. you may have been used or lied to all along, but now that you've seen what your actions have done to this woman, you need to walk away. For yourself and her.
She very well may have mental issues, but this does not excuse his actions.. it makes him all the more sickening for taking advantage of her.
If she abuses him, he should have left a long time ago. Why wait nine months? Why start up new ties when you have yet to settle the previous ones? Do you really believe he is a victim in this? You are the victim, honey. You and his wife. Don't let him treat you like this.
You want to believe him, and I sympathize with that.. I'm sorry that this happened, but you are strong. Respect yourself.. you deserved better than a married man.
The situation is simply too muddy to resolve. You may regret it if you come running back.
I don't blame you for leaving when his wife showed up. He's not your man to stand by. You had the right idea.. walk away.
2006-08-15 10:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by Spiked Coffee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not very smart to be dealing with a married man in the 1st place. If he married her just for a green card, I'm sure he didn't tell her that up front. Probably told her he like only her and she's the one for him.......kinda like he's doing you now. And there DEFINITELY seems to be something still going on between them. If you don't want to be caught in the middle of a war, stay far from him!!
2006-08-15 10:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by LoneWolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same crap. I met someone and he told me he is married only for his citizenship and the marriage will end two years from now in divorce. He seems on edge totally and always has a grudge at life on occasion. I was invited to visit him at his apartment a few times and he told me he want me in his life and he only married that woman only for citizenship. He mentioned he always wanted to marry for love the first time. You never know who you will meet and invest your time in. I do feel weird around him knowing this information. I am seriously thinking of telling him I wish him well and cannot be apart of the fake marriage mess. I hate to hurt his feelings, but he got married and maybe for other reasons in the first place then when they did not work out they decided to make it a money issue probably...I feel in my heart to move on.
2015-05-14 17:33:03 · answer #3 · answered by flowerdoves 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is nuts and a big Jerk. He needs to get his story right!
2006-08-15 10:44:06 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is Indian and he loves his Karma Sutra!
2006-08-15 10:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by lolitakali 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you that desperate??????
2006-08-15 10:53:53 · answer #6 · answered by More Lies & More Smoke Screens 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋