my worth?
what's with me that makes them run away?
i admit,im such a big loser when it comes to s**.haven't got any experience but,i know how to love..
i know its important but im not ready yet..
this is affecting my self-esteem and confidence..
think im ugly?
recently,this guy made me stood up..made me wait for hours! and got no explanation..
what do i do? i've been focusing on other things but still..y'know..something is still missing...
do you guys know and understand what i mean?
guess you can help me?
i'll gladly appreaciate it..
2006-08-15 10:01:29 · 14 answers · asked by peek-a-boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok..that is me in the pic..and yes,i love myself too..
im not to eager to catch a guy and make him fall for me..im being myself all the time...
they say im a tough challenge so they just tend to back off and run away..but my point is to make them realize my worth..
am i doing something wrong?
2006-08-15 10:13:42 · update #1
Don't try too hard. Believe in your worth. Don't waste your life waiting for selfish men.
Get to know people as friends, go around in groups and have fun. you're young free and single so enjoy your freedom.
If you are having fun then others will want to join in, and if you arrange to meet some one and they don't turn up then, if you're in a group you can still enjoy the evening.
The greatest thing you can have in this world is friends, to spend time with and explore life with.
Explore subjects that interest you and you will meet people who share your interests, from these people you will find someone who fills that space in your life. These interests can be in the form of evening classes, learning woodwork, decorating or car repairs can really bring you into contact with men and you will find the skills useful when you have your own home or car.;o)
When you meet the right man he will not stand you up and your inexperience will not matter.
2006-08-15 10:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by Liz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If that's your picture, you are a fine looking girl, and nothing to worrry about. My experience of men, is that if you appear too eager, then they think they've got you right where they want you. Be cool, play hard to get, and the old treat em mean keep em keen, sadly does work. Game playing is tiresome, but until you get to know someone really well, dont give yourself away (I mean emotionally).
I think you may have been unlucky and met some immature jerks, one day soon, you will meet someone who will recognise your worth, provided you yourself recognise it already.
Good luck
xx
2006-08-15 17:09:52 · answer #2 · answered by CHARLOTTE B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient,you will find the right guy and when you do you will know.
Never feel pressured into anything;a boyfriend or partner should treat you as an equal with respect,if he does not then you should not be with him,don't settle for second best,there will be someone there for you.
You are not ugly and never let anyone including yourself say that you are;but looks always fade to a certain degree anyway,so be happy with who you are and let your inner beauty shine through !
Good luck and be happy !
2006-08-15 17:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by any 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think they do realise your worth and these losers are doing you a favour by backing off. don't be in a rush to get your heart broken. s** isn't everything and you'll find the right person with time. do things to boost yourself esteem that don't rely on this kind of validation. try achieving something for yourself. martial arts is a good way to boost your confidence and make friends. talk to yourself and look in the mirror right now and say 'i love you' to the person you see looking back at you. Iyanla Vanzant has written some excellent books that you'll find helpful. try reading the reviews on www.amazon.co.uk her 'faith in the valley' and 'one day my soul just opened up' are very good
2006-08-15 18:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont admitt u have no experience just b urself, everyone is beautiful in their own way dont get so hung up on ur looks! this man was obviously not worth it, i know you wanted a mans view but i went through the same thing let your personality shine! and the rest will eventally follow.
2006-08-16 16:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by fruitbat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is ugly. "Beauty comes from within." All you need to do is find a guy who is not obsessed with s.e.x. It might be hard, but there are guys out there who look at a girl and see more than their breast and butt size. He's out there, somewhere. Just keep looking. Good luck.
2006-08-15 17:10:49 · answer #6 · answered by Smiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately some men just want sex and if it's not on offer they're not interested.
don't be so keen to get involved with men. your young and beautiful, you don't need a man to be happy.
it will just happen one day when your least expecting it.
if you must start dating, make them work at it, don't say yes to go out with them straight away.
if a guy really wants to take you out, he won't mind how long he has to wait until you agree.
2006-08-15 17:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by tuppassister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no some of the best things in life are always worth the wait
2006-08-15 20:19:58 · answer #8 · answered by mescalin57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand...
Just take it away and enjoy yourself....
You are not ugly, belive in yourdelf and enjoy your life while you have it to live.
As long as you can love you will be fine!
2006-08-16 04:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it cool girl let the men chase you. You are really pretty so don't worry about it.
2006-08-15 17:47:17 · answer #10 · answered by vanessa s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋