How to get over ex?

Question

Common ? but its been long enough, I can't stop thinking about her. And not ready to start seing other people. I really felt a connection. Last time I spoke to her, she made it clear that if I wanted to go out, that she would be up for it. But she just wants to be friends w/privilages. I can't, too many feelings. I thought that that was what I wanted at first, but my feelings for her got more intense. A

Answer 1

GET AS MANY WOMEN YOU CAN TO KEEP YOUR MIND OFF HER

Answer 2

The only way to get over her is if you cut all ties and all communication with her. Just look at it like a smoking habit you're trying to break. You can't break the habit if you keep on sneaking a puff here and there. The "friends w/ privilages" thing is a bit selfish on her part, especially if her motivations for wanting to do it is different from yours. If you're not ready to see other people, then don't see other people. Just give yourself more time to be alone. There's nothing wrong with that. Instead, get busy with your own pursuits, find new activities, hang out w/ friends or spend time w/ family.

Answer 3

Your heart is broken; you feel like the one person you ever had a connection with has let you down, right? Hey, man, I hear ya. I have been there, done that and gotten through it. I hope my sharing some of things that helped me out will also help you out.

Tip No. 1: The friends with privildges never works out. Someone always gets hurt in the end. You are best to end it, as painful as it may seem.

Tip No. 2: Make a list of reminders of why this relationship didn't work and keep it in your wallet. Every time you you start thinking of her, take out that list and read it. Remind yourself how you NEVER want to experience that kind of pain again.

Tip No. 3: And this is a REALLY tough one. Get rid of everything she ever gave you. Every present, every trinket, every letter, every e-mail ... EVERYTHING. I know it's hard to let ago of these things, but man, you'll thank yourself for it in the longrun. It's doing you no good and only serving as a painful reminder of her.

Tip No. 4: Try to meet new people. You say right now that you're not ready to do this, but believe me, there are plenty of fish in the sea. And there are plenty of goodlooking women out there who would be happy to be your girlfriend. When you're with someone else, you won't even be thinking of your old flame.

I hope this helps and I wish you al the best.

Answer 4

Hi..
There is no "rule of thumb" that covers all people and all situations.... It depends on many factors, like your own emotional reactions, the length of the relationship, the intensity of the relationship, circumstances of the breakup, whether or not you were married, etc... Some rules of thumbs I've heard are "half the length of the relationship" and "two months for every year or partial year of the relationship"....
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You'll know it when the time is right ...when you stop getting that sinking feeling in your stomach... while hearing songs on the radio that remind you of your former partner, and when you are finally able to go to that special restaurant that you shared without becoming teary-eyed thinking of past meals with your partner, then you're ready to move on and cultivate a new relationship... Make sure you have complete closure with your former partner...take her picture of your refrigerator, and if you feel that you have to save all of the love letters/emails that you shared, pack them away in a box and hide them in the corner of the closet (or give to a trusted friend with instructions not to let you have them back for 6 months) ...and don't keep rereading and dwelling on them, it will only prolong the process....
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Above all, remember that it really is true that time heals all wounds (of the heart).... Just give it time, don't try to rush things, and everything will be all right, and you'll better know what you're looking for (and not looking for) in a new relationship based on your experiences with your prior relationship...
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You should take this time.. while healing to discover yourself... Maybe, take one of your hobbies.. or interests and join a group associated with your hobby... Or, maybe try something entirely new... Most major cities have a large number of clubs and organizations that cater to a wide variety of interests... Perhaps you'll eventually run into someone there that you click with and before you know it, you'll no longer be thinking of your former relationship...
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But don't join a group just.. because you think you're likely to meet people there for a relationship.... For example, if you hate hiking, but think that there will be a lot of eligible women at a hiking club, don't try to fool yourself into being something that you're not .. you're only likely to find someone who has an interest... that you don't really like!.. If cooking is your thing, then take some cooking classes, maybe you'll meet the woman of your dreams, at the class and you'll already have a shared interest.... ;)
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Hopefully this helps!
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MY regards!.. and the best of, luck!;)

Answer 5

If she has made it clear that all she wants to be is friends then I'm afraid that's all she wants and you shouldn't pressure her into anything else no matter how you feel about her. When she is ready for something more serious believe me she will let you know until then be the best friend that you can be and if that is too much for you to bare then gentle let her know that it hurts too much to be around her and not think about her as more than friends more than likely she is going to say that all she wants is to be friends and if you can't just be friends then its probably a good idea if we go our separate ways until you can handle it.

Answer 6

Do not become friends with benefits. Things will only get worse because you'll still be harbouring feelings that she isn't. I would reccomend not continuing a friendship with her if you feel the way you do. Just move on. You can still be nice to her though, because there's no reason not to. Focus on something else that is important like family or friends or work or something. Get a hobby. Don't waste your time on someone that will use a friendship to that extent and only for her own benefit. She obviously doesn't appreciate you and you would do much better without her.

Answer 7

You are not alone.. It takes a lot of time to get over deep relationships. I would not recommend dating other people right now, instead try other new activities, make new friends, hang out at different pubs and clubs, take a vacation...and give it some time. If you keep going to the same old places, do same things, you'll be constantly reminded of your ex and will not be able to connect with other people.

Answer 8

Don't rush into another relationship or seeing other people. Take some time out for yourself, get to know yourself and find that love for yourself. I know it is rough and trying to be a friend with someone that you are madly in love with is the roughest. Don't hurt yourself. You can't make someone change they way they feel. Time heals all wounds. It may take a while but soon you will get over it.
There really isn't a good answer to this question, because all people react in different ways when they are hurting some rely on food, sex, drinking,drugging, etc.
Take that time for you. When you get yourself back together another woman will come along. In due time, all your pain will cease.
Stay strong it won't last always

Answer 9

Time is the best healer.. thats my best advice.. Do things that make you happy and just take it a day at a time! Also, try to stay busy. Time is the only thing that's going to help you heal and forget. The activites just keep your mind off of it in the meantime. I took up ice skating and painting when I broke up with my ex last year. I also put in a lot of time at school/work. Avoiding contact has been the best for me. Trust me, as soon as you meet someone new and fall in love with that person, u won't think of ur ex any more. That just takes time!!

ps. its an urban legend rule that as long as u two dated, it takes half of that time to get over her. For example, if you dated for 6 months, it will take 3 months to get over her.

pps. Friends with benefits never works. Either one person or both people end up getting even more hurt in the long run! It sounds like she is not looking for a relationship, but someone to screw around with. When you look for a girl in the future, look for one who is interested in having a commited relationship, just as you are! Good Luck with everything! I know how hard it is!

Answer 10

Look you need to take time for yourself. It happens all to often that the last thing we want is the first thing we need. A little time to yourself never hurts. Also, indulge yourself in your hobbies and go to the gym. But also don't play games if you can't be with her cuz your emotions then stay away and don't answer her calls. If you want something and she does not then roll out because if she does not know how much of a good person you are then she does not deserve you. (in spanish we say "Toma Guay")

Answer 11

Im not even going to lie, its hard to get over a ex, especially if you really loved them. The only thing that I can say is that you are going to need alot of support from friends, you need to talk to god and ask him for guidance and comfort during this time, and when you are ready to move on gradually try to meet new people.