i am still not done my baby shower thank-you notes and it's been almost 2 months! i have most of them done, but not all.
anyone else hate thank-you notes??
personally, i don't mind if i don't get one from other people, b/c then i just think "oh, they hate them as much as i do!".
i take comfort in that.
thanks all!
2006-08-15 09:42:45 · 19 answers · asked by joey322 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Loathe it. We're coming up on our 3 year wedding anniversary and I never sent out a single thank you note for the wedding gifts. I wrote a bunch of them, maybe 30% or so but never finished and didn't want to send notes to some but not others.
I feel badly and hate running into people who gave us a gift but I haven't seen since the wedding. By the way, I did get out TY notes for all of our wedding shower gifts.
Though I don't feel horrible about it. I can easily think of 5 people in recent history who haven't sent TY notes for their wedding gifts.
2006-08-15 09:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by stimply 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong question. The CORRECT question asks, "Does anyone LIKE writing thank-you notes; and the answer IS, of course- "almost nobody". It's like alot of things....-We all love to RECIEVE mail, but who can find the time to sit down & write a letter? The reality IS; if someone is nice enough to go through the trouble of getting & giving you a gift- the LEAST you can do is sit down & scribble out a thank-you. That's what my Mom taught me, & as much as I hate doing it- I believe she was right. Keep up the good work! :)
2006-08-15 09:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a real chore but it needs to be done. It not only thanks someone for a gift but lets them know you appreciate that they took part in whatever it is you celebrated. You've invited someone to participate in an event that...although it is never stated...traditionally calls for a gift. How would you feel if everyone (or anyone) showed up without a gift? When I don't get a thank you note to acknowledge my gift, I don't know what to think...did they get it? Did they hate it? Do they not appreciate it? Do yourself and your friends and family a favor...write the thank you notes.
2006-08-15 10:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by camotx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I despise them...nothing but a guilt trip for not doing them. Hey...here is a fun idea next time you THROW a shower, tell the guest of honor that thank you cards are NOT allowed while all of the guests are present. Just tell her that you want her to enjoy her baby. I've seen this done and thought it was a really sweet gesture.
2006-08-15 10:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently a lot of people don't like writing thank you notes. I've quit sending gifts to people who don't have the courtesy to let me know they have received them. And that's what a thank you note is, basically.
My feeling is that if I can take the time to choose a gift, purchase it, wrap it and send it, they can take five minutes to let me know they got it.
2006-08-15 10:02:19 · answer #5 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is okay. I hate them too. I got married 9 months ago and am not finished. I don't notice if someone forgets to send me one. So I hope some people don't care if I send them one.
You are not alone.
I think a thank you card is optional. Although my husband is bugging me to finish them. He can do this job just as well himself.
I wouldn't worry about it. They know you are busy w/a baby too.
2006-08-15 09:54:59 · answer #6 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it this way, it's the least you can do for the nice things people have bought for the baby.
What made me mad was that my mother-in-law threw me a nice a baby shower, BUT...didn't give out any of the thank-you cards I wrote out. She's the one that invited the people. I barely met them! YET, she made me write a Thank you card for her son for his graduation to send out. How lame is that? EWWWWWW!
2006-08-15 09:56:47 · answer #7 · answered by mx3baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anybody "likes" writing thank you notes.
I suggest writing them though - to all people who sent you something and you did not get a chance to say thanks.
ex. to friends who shipped a present (otherwise they may not know if you got it).
For the rest, a phonecall or a warm thanks when you get it should do... and maybe using the present the next time you see them!!!
2006-08-15 10:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by OneLilithHidesAnother 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's the kind of thing we like to put off. But as you know because you're writing them, for something like a baby shower, you gotta do it.
2006-08-15 09:50:03 · answer #9 · answered by Alexander D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thank you notes are a complete waste of time. If someone gives you a gift, they give it freely, why do they need some hokey thank you note.
2006-08-15 09:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by Chaga 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋