Mixed Race Unmanageable Hair!!??

Question

I am mixed race and have thick curly hair, Im thinking of getting it relaxed but my mum thinks it'll ruin my hair and my curls will never come back :0(......I am so tired of doin battle with it though...I work shifts and just cant be arced with it sometimes...when i starighten it it doesn't last 5 mins! What do you girls think? Anyone had their hair relaxed??

Answer 1

I have 3 times it does'nt mess up your curls it just helps keep your hair more manigable

Answer 2

whooooo, DON'T relax or perm your hair, trust me you'll live to regret it. I have long thick curly hair, and i completely understand where your coming to, ive often felt at times that I was going to war, a full on battle with your hair. But their is a solution:

Firstly check the products you are using in your hair that will make a massive difference believe me. Try and stay away from gels and products like dax, and target products with essiential oils such as carrot oil etc. There really easy to get hold off, just go to nearnest ethinc hair shop.

Secondly if you want to starighten it in invest in a good pair of GHD straighteners (trust me NOTHING ELSE will compare) and a good ionic hairdryer, I suggest going to ebay to get them much cheaper. Your hair will straighten easier, last much longer and suffer much less if any damage.

Make sure your getting regular trims which makes a big difference with curly hair. Also, try and establish if your hair is more afro, or more European and treat it accordingly, as i'm sure you know differnt hair types require slightly different care. I recommend www.blendedbeauty.com a sight for peple with mixed race hair or www.nappturality.com a site for people with curly to afro hair. Both are fantastic and you casn get some really fab advice from there.

I f you must chemically straighten your hair please don't go for a full relaxer, try a texturiser which lossens the curl and makes it a bit more manageable....although i still wouldn't recomend any chemical treatment, both are permanent, and you WON'T get your curls back in their orginal state unitl you grow it all out, which if your hair is long will take years. They both also end up destroying the hair...not a nice look lol.

Anywaz whatever you decide good luck, sorry for long **** post but ive been there, my solution ghd's and the right products :)

Answer 3

My daughter (mixed) had beautiful thick curly high-maintanence hair - I put a perm in it and messed it ALL up, now it's short, dry and alot thinner.

My neighbor (mixed) has beautiful versitile hair and she has a perm (relaxer) in it.

I think it really depends on your upkeep. If you can do the upkeep, you will probably have a beautiful head of hair. But if you slip and don't take care of it everyday, it will end up ruined!

So think about that. In the meantime, use a good flat iron to get the "relaxed" look (hopefully that will work); I also put my daughter's hair in twists and it came out great. She was able to leave it in for three days.

Hope that helps!

Answer 4

i have crazy hair and have never relaxed it, but i also tried straightening it a few times, but its like trying to flatten a garden bush or something! i guess you use all the serums and that stuff also. i used this amazing shampoo called 'motions at home' which seems to calm my hair and makes it so soft too. my bro has the same hair and grew it out, and has plaits now for the past 10 years or so! other than that what about getting one of those super duper straighteners? very expensive but they work better. other than that you could jus believe everyone else when they say they love our hair and leave it the way it is!

Answer 5

I have the same problem. DONT get a perm. your hair will never be the same, you have to wait until it grows out to get your natural texture back. go to www.blendedbeauty.com. There products are made for curly unruly hair. I have givin up trying to straighten my hair, bu tthey do sell something that helps keep it straight on there website. The product line is created by a Canadian women that is half white and half black, so she know what it is like to have unruly hair. Good Luck.

PS if you go to
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Answer 6

Girl I have the same issue. But your mom is right it will ruin your hair. Be proud of what you have. Just get products that help manage curly hair. GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

So simple.... why dont u go for Rebonding !!!

this will not only straighen ur hair but also give a glow as well as Bulkness in ur curl hair,,,, and if u want curl again u can go for curl after 6 months,,, as rebonding stays max. for 6 months...
this will be a change also...

Answer 8

ive never had my hair relaxed, but I am gonna do it.
i found this natural relaxer- its called naturalaxer. its way better then those relaxers u get in a store.

go here:
www.naturalaxer.com

Answer 9

im half greek, my daughters hair like mine is very curly..and resistant to straightening...oh she can spend an hour with those tongs, and within minutes shes a springhead again... and yes she hates it, almost as much as i hated mine... but being male i found a simple sure... its called a No2..now all i have to worry about is the grey...

Answer 10

Being mixed myself I can relate. A relaxer will not hurt your hair if done properly/professionally. If you are mixed with black I suggest you go to a black persons salon and let them analyze you hair.