is it wrong to chat to people on my 360 page through IM as thier my freinds even if i have a partner ok so there male but they are just friends im never going to meet them but my partner doesnt agree am i wrong?
2006-08-15 09:13:49 · 23 answers · asked by bigboobs1@btinternet.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its not wrong :)
he is just jealous.
2006-08-15 09:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by A.D.T. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they are literally just online friends, maybe you should stick to the married guys, where you can occasionally include the wife..I dont want to talk to anyone who thinks i'm going to be more than an online aquaintence, a few passing comments is about as far as i go......i have enough friends offline..you see, chat leads to emotional attachment, emotional attachment leads to problems...one of you often gets mixed messages , moreso
... if BOTH of you arent single,
put yourself in HIS shoes, i wouldn't want MINE randomly chatting to females,
so many people online are just on to get some form of validation, either sexually, or emotionally,
think about it, what sort of conversations do you have?? are you flirting?...you can have the same fun with females you know..
If he went to work each day and chatted with females en route and then told you.."well I'm never going to 'see' them again"
its the same kind of thing?
I've been on both sides of the coin.
the only reason i chatted to a man...way back when... was to fill the emotional void i wasnt getting at home
You know he doesnt like it, so you need to reach an agreeable compromise or STOP,
2006-08-15 22:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by littlestarr02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same thing as you. Difference is i am male and you are female. I am not allowed to text talk or even write to any females unless my wife knows about it. In some respects its wrong because would you like him talking to females on-line? I think no but which side of the fence will people be sitting?!
2006-08-15 09:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by Coley61 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to keep trust and intimacy between you and your partner. If you're having private talks about relationship matters that need resolving with your s/o, you'd better be talking to your s/o also.
You need to ask yourself what need to you have that is causing you to seek outside chats? Are you bored? Are you needy and looking for external validation you're OK? The chats are the side-effect. It is up to you to determine the cause. You might want to refocus that energy on making live friends or improving your relationship with your s/o.
2006-08-15 09:20:18 · answer #4 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will be because some ppl start off as friends and end up having an affair or going off with someone they've met online. I think he's trying to avoid the possibility of it happening to you as a couple.
2006-08-15 09:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you bothered about other men? what is missing in your life and why do you need this? if you're partner doesn't like it then why is it so important for you to go against him? is he very controlling? i would finish with my fella if he did what you do cos it's disloyal. he's my friend as well as my man and the friendship is so important. you need to look inside yourself to answer this question. perhaps you are insecure or need constant attention. if you can find out why you do it and explain to your partner you may be able to find what you need from an activity that doesn't upset him.
2006-08-15 11:30:24 · answer #6 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I, personally, don't see anything wrong with it...maybe you could have him sit next to you or go and show him what you are saying...ask him why he doesn't like it...maybe there is more to it than what you are aware of...but, if it were going to cause ME problems in my marriage, i would stop (but, then, i am no longer married and don't have to answer to anyone about whom I chat with)
2006-08-15 09:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You read about so many people splitting up because theyre partner has met someone online ,he's probably a little concerned. i dont think i would like it.....
2006-08-15 09:21:49 · answer #8 · answered by Pat R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, yes, you pouty-mouthed buxom lady you!
With that email address you're flaunting, what do you expect to hear for a response?
We don't need a newsflash every time you have a thought.
2006-08-15 09:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
never going to meet?? i don't see the problem ... i have the sme problem w/ my wife ...it's someone to talk to since i've been essentially cut off from my friends and i can't just talk to her all the damn time ...
2006-08-15 09:19:24 · answer #10 · answered by Shrek'shandsomeidenticaltwin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes him feel insecure, then yes, it is wrong. Would you like it if he was doing something to make you feel insecure?
2006-08-15 09:19:15 · answer #11 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋