what should i tell my children?

Question

i have 2 young children, and they ask why i always hit mommy when i come home drunk.

what should i tell them? i dont want to scar them for life

Answer 1

The main thing is that you don't want them to lose faith in "daddy" so tell them that it's their fault you had to do it.

Answer 2

IF this is a SERIOUS question (and not just fishing for a bunch of hate mail)...

You might start with "I'm a drunkard, and I can't control myself when I drink. I hit mommy because I love myself more than her, which is why I repeatedly let myself get out of control...and I must not love you guys much either 'cause I don't protect you from seeing it."

That is the truth...

However, I think it would be a whole lot better for you to change the PROBLEM (your drinking) than try to come up with an explanation...who cares WHY you do it? It would be better to STOP doing it...

I'd contact Alcoholics Anonymous TODAY, if I were you, and thank God that you haven't had your kids taken from you, or gone to jail for battery...

Answer 3

I know you are probley going to get a lot of criticism from this question becaus hitting anyone is wrong wrong wrong!!!
You are going to scar them for life if you continue this abusive relationship. You need help seriously. Your children will have to go to therapy over this. You need to stop this right now. If you ever want to have a relationship with your children you need to stop. Your children will hate you if you continue this. Please stop, not only for the sake of your children, but the sake of their mom. She should not be putting up with this. She needs to get ahold of an abuse registry and report you. I pray to god, that you are not hurting those innocent children. Please stop what you are doing. Their mother doesn't deserve to be hit by you when you come home drunk.. And don't use the excuse that you are drunk to justify the fact that you are abusive. You have a problem, in which you need to seek help. Please find help for youself. Good luck

Answer 4

First you need to know why you hit their mommy. Then you need to get help. After you have done that maybe you will be able to give them an honest answer. Honestly you have probably already scarred them. I urge you to seek help. I know that you love your children. Just get some help.

Answer 5

Maybe you should get some help for yourself. If you hit their mommy you will end up hitting the 2 children and that wont be good for any of you. And unless you get help for yourself, you will be scaring them for life.

You should start with AA for yourself. If I was their mom, I would not be living you anymore.

Answer 6

Too late for that D*ckhead. You have already done that. You should go to treatment for the alcohol and family counseling for the violence. My husband beat me for 3 years and he didn't even have to be drinking to do it. You need to find out what is the cause of your violence and it is not the drinking that is just a catalyst. Then you need to get help. If you cannot quit doing it then I suggest that you leave your wife. It will be much better for her and the children in the long run.

Answer 7

I don't think you need to be on here, asking that kind of a question. I think you first need to take care of yourself, by stopping the drinking to excess, being drunk and hitting is unacceptable no matter what! You don't think for one minute that they are already scarred for life? Get yourself into an inpatient rehab. program or an outpatient program, get a sponsor, get yourself to AA meetings, as many times a day as you have to! Get help, first for you to take care of you, but for your wife and kids! You are going to lose something very precious if this continues. Please stop NOW! I grew up in an alcoholic family, and I can tell you, you are the one who is responsible for your disease. Just like a diabetic is responsible for diet and taking of medications. You have to take control of a life that is out of control! We all thank God that my Dad finally did after over 50 years of drinking, all of it, and y es we were all affected but he is going to be 82 this November and going strong! Make a life for yourself, take care of yourself, and take the responsibility of what you have done already and make a positive change NOW! You can do it! One step at a time, one moment at a time, one day at a time........................good luck!

Answer 8

WOW, mister!!!!!!! You should have asked for help from the beginning. My father used to beat the sh it out of my mother and to this day I HATE my fahter for doing what he did to her in front of me and my three other sisters and brother. They will know that you are their father, but will always remember what happened and it is something that will never go away. LOL, he did get help though.....when my mother knocked him out with a cast iron frying pan. Also let you wife know that if wants to be a good mother.......don't force the children to stay around that kind of violence just because shes stupid in love with you, and tell your children WHEN YOUR SOBER, that things will get better. And for you, when your standing over your wife hitting her and choking her and tears are filling your childrens eyes you remember that whats goes around comes around and what comes around might just be a frying pan and drunk people have slow reflexes so duck fast!!

Answer 9

You are so so so sick. You should go to that place were they keep all the stupid alcoholics who are too dumb to control their own freaking life. You should leave with another woman who would make you feel like crap, just the way your wife and children see you when you come beating up that poor woman. Tell them the truth. That you are sick and a crap head who will leave them for good.

Answer 10

Stop drinkingg andd getting drunk!! think about itt what is it doing good for you?and sooner or later if u don't stop then u will find urself alone no wife and no children.Control yourself you are a grown up man!!Look around you! you are really lucky to have a family,and especially children some people wish to have that and they don't even have it!

Answer 11

Thats real nice you are a lil bit too late. I think you should stop drinking and look at what you have right there. 2 beautiful kids and you are hitting their mother right infront of them. OPEN your eyes and get some help bc you hurt them anymore. Show them that you care bc right now I don't think you do.