am 19. When I was in high school, my parents constantly made me study, complained that my cousins made better grades & that I should be exactly like them. Then I knew that my parents were always comparing me with my cousins, but I didn’t realize that they were making me study because of my cousins. I feel that it is so UNFAIR. If they were never forced to do anything because of me, why should I be forced to do something because of them? Also, I feel that if my parents force me to study all because of my cousins, it is my cousins’ responsibility to tell my parents to stop forcing me to study because my cousins cause the problem.
I made a choice to never speak to them again. Yesterday they were at my house, they said hi to me & I told them to shut up. They said hi again. I yell & threw a chair at them. I should have done that in high school. Since I didn't, now I am doing it to make up for back then. Did I did the right thing? Why?
2006-08-15 09:04:28 · 7 answers · asked by youngwoman 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's not your cousins who are at fault here. It's your parents. They are the one's who are doing the comparing. Your cousins can't help who they are. I think throwing the chair was a bit childish. I would ask your parents why you aren't good enough for them? They seem to want you to be someone that you're not. That's unfair of them to do. Quit blaming your cousins they are not at fault here!! That's just silly. It's your parents fault they aren't happy with you the way you are. And they should be.
2006-08-15 09:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by dlfoster67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a lot of family dynamics going on there.
Your parents are still engaged in sibling rivalry. Yes, it goes on between adults all of the time; and I have seen it often. They cannot stand the thought of one of your cousins doing better than you, or out-doing you in something. It is so sad they are such competitive people and cannot just encourage you to do well in whatever you chose to do.
You might want to make up with them in time. They are still your folks and you might need them again one day. I am not suggesting you run right over and apologize and ask forgiveness or anything. Let some time go by, and calm down. The last thing you want to do is address this issue with them when you are emotional and hurting. When the time is right, bring it up and then tell them in plain English why you are so upset and let them know you are tired of being compared and pushed to be like you cousins. You are you.........just be the best "you" that you can.
As for your parents and the competition thing that is going on with your aunts and uncles. I have no solution for that,...it is probably something that has been going on all of their lives.
I wish you well.
2006-08-15 16:16:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drama queen. no you shouldn't have thrown a chair. You sound like a 12 year old telling people to shut up. Your parents are the only ones resposible for their behavior. Just like you're the only one responsible for yours.
2006-08-15 16:12:04 · answer #3 · answered by t79a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought I answered this once. You lost 5 points by asking again.
2006-08-15 16:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by cowgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do agree with David, You are dump. Will never learn.
poor parents.
2006-08-15 16:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by lal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this could be the most ignorant question ever!
2006-08-15 16:12:54 · answer #6 · answered by a_b_b_e_y_r_o_a_d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their plan didn't work,your dumb anyway!
2006-08-15 16:11:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋