My mother's friend's son (you know how that goes) just got married and his whole (large) family traveled 1500 miles by car to attend the wedding and reception. This was the first time meeting the *other side*. Well, they knew the reception was informal, so they dressed nice, but not *wedding fancy*. They were horrified to see the other wedding guests dressed in ripped jeans, cut-offs, shorts, t-shirts, etc. They said everyone looked at them like *they* were the idiots.
Now, the bride wore a gorgeous white wedding gown. Is it wrong to dress nice to show respect, even at a casual wedding, or did they really miss something here? Opinions?
2006-08-15 08:50:34 · 18 answers · asked by Yahzmin ♥♥ 4ever 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
**Sigh**, my wedding was sort of similar. I wanted an informal wedding. My husband bought a nice black suit and a blue shirt and we bought the two groomsmen black suits with cream colored shirts. My thought was that is you spend $200 to rent a tux, why not just spend that money and own a suit. Atleast you can wear it again for free to another wedding or a funeral or what not. I told my bridemaids I didn't care what they wore shoe wise because I wore some white flip flops- no sense in my feet hurting if NO ONE sees your feet under your dress. Now this must have gotten out to our guests because BOTH sides had some odd balls. He's a country boy and one of his uncles wore a Mickey mouse baseball cap and blue jeans. I was horrified. However, a friend of my family (thank god we aren't related) wore a hawaiian shirt and khaki shorts. Ugh! I have heard of casual weddings, but it's STILL a wedding people.
To answer you question, yes it was rude. These guests need to think about the poor bride and groom who have to live with pictures of these people in their wedding album for the rest of their lives! Have a little respect people!!
2006-08-15 09:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by Phoenixsong 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would find it extremely rude and disrespectful--and goes back to the golden rule. However, I was in a wedding that went a lot like this. The bride was wearing a $2000+ dress, the bridesmaids were dressed to the nines, and the guests were in an array of jeans, overalls, and other inappropriate wedding attire. The reception was also self catered and the picnic tables were pushed aside so a keg could be rolled into the center of the dance floor. So I guess the best thing to say is it may be a cultural thing. Where I'm from this would never be acceptable, but in another part of the country where my friend from college was married, this was their way and their choice of priorities.
2006-08-15 09:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by jlcon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless the bride and groom say, "Wear ripped jeans and t-shirts", I would never hope to see someone dress like that. Even if they are told the wedding is informal, there is no reason to look so slouchy. A wedding is a big event for the bride, groom, and their families. People should take a little time to think about that. Some people probably just don't care what people think about them, but most do, and SHOULD dress nicer than ripped jeans and t-shirts to a wedding, whether it's informal or not.
2006-08-15 09:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by ☼ lovethesun11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was incredibly disrespectful and trashy for them to show up dressed like they were going to a beach BBQ. But, if the bride & groom were not specific about what 'informal' means, then they are partially to blame.
It's fine to have been horrified by everyone, and it will certainly help people decide whether to attend any events with this couple again. But, in the long run, if the bride and groom weren't horrified then it's not really our place to talk too badly about it. But, that doesn't mean it doesn't make for a great story!! ; )
2006-08-15 12:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the bride dresses up, so should the guests. I think the *other side* should be embarassed to wear cut of jeans at a wedding. I don't think the dressy causual dressed guests should have been the ones embarassed.
2006-08-15 08:59:45 · answer #5 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We get to dress casual on Fridays at work but that does not mean jeans. Who in their right mind would wear jeans to a wedding, casual or not ? And ripped jeans at that. Some people just have no class, what can I say.
2006-08-15 08:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, informal means nice, clean "professional" or "Sunday best", clothing not the clothes you garden or go the beach in. This also show respect to the bride and groom on their special day. No one wants to look back at their wedding photos and see cousin sally's pierced belly button, her boyfriend's rock band t-shirt and ripped jeans. People should re-learn proper etiquette and manners when going to large and small functions.
2006-08-15 10:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by Alyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The people in ripped jeans, cut-offs, etc. were completely wrong. You do not dress like that for a wedding no matter how informal. I don't dress like that to clean my house.
2006-08-15 16:03:24 · answer #8 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the other guests were way too informal, but I am guessing that they were the bride's family and she knew what to expect. Some people are like that and never change. Tell your mom's friend that to be nice to them because they are connected forever, but to make sure her grandkids learn how to dress from their father's side of the family!
2006-08-15 08:56:25 · answer #9 · answered by emp04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, it was very tacky for the other guest to dress so casual. I would be horrified to see those wedding pictures.
2006-08-15 10:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by treday25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋