2006-08-15 08:34:44 · 74 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Uh... no. And if you think he's leaving them for you, you're crazy. Go find your own man, girl... for your own sake and for his family's.
Think of it like this: Would you have been okay with your dad dating other women because he wasn't happy with your mom? Would you be okay with YOUR (future) husband looking for goods on the side instead of working things out with you?
It's called the Golden Rule, Karma, or whatever you wanna say... but what you throw out there WILL come back to you. Trust that.
2006-08-16 14:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by Holly 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not ok. I am not answering this question judgmentally, believe me !! I am in the process of a divorce, and dating a man... in the process of,yeah, a divorce. People do stay in marriages because of the kids and that may very well be why he is still in the marriage. BUUUUUUTTT, you are at high risk girlfriend !!! You are putting yourself in a situation where you can be hurt VERY bad !!! I can honestly say that for the last 5 to 7 years of my marriage ,I stayed in Solly for the kids. After taking the big plunge into this divorce ,I don't know whats been harder, staying or leaving. It is a very painful thing to stay for someone else, even if the someone else are your kids whom you thought you would do anything in the world for.At least when you're staying, you are the one who takes the brunt of the pain,leave,and you are distributing life altering pain on the ones you love the most. Dating someone who is faced with this decision,its hard. I feel for you,that's all I can say. Life is not fair and that's a fact. I don't know how you feel about this person but just be careful for yourself.
2006-08-15 08:53:37 · answer #2 · answered by crazartgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want a relationship that you know would NEVER go anywhere? It would always have to be a secret. What fun is that? Then if the wife or kids found out, the kids would hate their dad. The wife could file for divorce and sue YOU for breaking up their family (in PA, you can do that!). Sure, you'll get the attention that you might have been longing for, but why not get the attention from a man that you might have a future with?
In short, no, it isn't a good idea.
Plus, it will be in the back of your mind. Then you will start to feel guilt. Can you live with the consequences of breaking up a marriage?
2006-08-15 08:42:19 · answer #3 · answered by glendonite 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't cause no matter what he says he's MARRIED so therefore he is off the market unless he divorces his wife which he isn't going to do. Girl don't get sucked into the game how do you even know for sure that he's having problems with his marriage. That man could be lying his pants off to you just so that he can make you his woman on the side. If a person isn't happy they wouldn't stay in the marriage that's making them so unhappy. So hope you don't believe that bull about him stay in it for the kids he is BS you sweety.
2006-08-15 08:46:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's unhappy with his marriage he should try to improve it not run around with other women. I don't know why you would want to be the other woman, but if I were you I'd find a man that's available for more than a sexual relationship. Remember he can't take you on a real date because someone might see you together. Trust me it won't work out. You'll fill his needs and still be left with a huge void of your own.
2006-08-15 08:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not OK. If he is so unhappy with his marriage then he should get out. It would make him a better parent. Staying for his kids is very selfish because he is giving them the wrong message. If he is serious about you then he will get divorced. By expecting you to be with him while married is also very disrespectful.Respect yourself.
2006-08-15 08:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by November 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he's still married. I would consider you a homewrecker. Look at this man: he is lying to his wife, depriving his children of a happy home, and a big fat chicken to tell his wife what is going on. He is a coward. Why would you want a man that is cheating on his wife to be with you. He is probably taking money away from his family to support you. The worst part of all this is that you know he is married. Honey, that is wrong of both of you. End it now and tell him that when he gets a divorce, you MIGHT talk to him again. Until, then , stay out of the way of this family.
2006-08-15 08:41:38 · answer #7 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're asking this question because deep down you know what you're doing is wrong. The worst part about this, is let's say you do date him, he ends up leaving his wife after years of stringing you along, then he ends up doing the same thing to you. You can't trust a love like that. Your heart is telling you he's this amazing person, you click, and after all, he's only with "her" for the kids sake. But if he'll cheat on her and she bore his children, what would he do to you?
Trust your gut mama. There are SOOO many men out there, UNMARRIED men; why would you chose someone else's?
2006-08-15 08:43:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I know you, do you live in FL? haha... I am dating a married man who is VERY unhappy but has a lot of financial ties and is working them out first before he leaves her. Sure its wrong, but you can't help who you love. We have been dating for a year now and have known each other for 7 years.
2006-08-15 08:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by darcilynn83 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you can justify it in YOUR mind than whatever.
I say no.
The bible would say no.
He needs to divorce her or stay with her and try to work things out. A broken marriage where he's screwing other people isn't doing the kids any good, it'll just teach them its ok to sleep around when you're married. Marriage is sh*t.
And does SHE know its over- what if she's still trying to work on it and he's only in his own mind staying for the kids? What does THAT say?
Thats not OK.
But hey, to each their own and if you can justify it and feel OK about yourself doing something like that, fine.
2006-08-15 08:40:15 · answer #10 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋