Ok so I've asked this question to several of my friends and I'm just curious about what other people think. In my entire life I have NEVER satyed friends with an ex. I feel that it never really gives you closure and the longer you stay around them emotions are just going to keep it alive. Plus you are breaking up for a reason. If we were suppose to stay close why are we breaking up? The only exception I feel to this rule is if you were TRUE friends before, if not then you are pretty much dead to me. I also believe re dating an ex is a bad idea because in my experience it only ends up reminding we why I don't like you anymore.
2006-08-15 08:27:44 · 10 answers · asked by Freespirit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You break up for a reason, and to be honest, once the respect has gone, and your relationship is over, there is no reaon to stay friends.
I am divorced x 2 and have not spoken to either ex husband for many years. No point in it.
2006-08-15 08:33:42 · answer #1 · answered by happydawg 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ANSWER: you can be friends with your ex even if your memory of having sex is there it can work given that both of you like each other for reasons other then love or desire for sex from each other
Remember this: being friends v.s. being a couple are completly different things. When you are boyfriend-girlfriend you both act different and usually around the ages of 18-30 or more these relationships are sex-based and depend little on actual rational emoitions (though don't confuse it when woman say that they love another man when in reality they are emotionally dependents on the other guy which this too is unhealthy psychologically)
BUT GOING BACK TO YOUR QUESTION: it really depends on what you find interesting about him. Remember friends are friends because they #1 they share things in common, #2 they like each others company and often enjoy doing activities with each other (excluding sex for this example), #3 and see each other as support when times get hard.
BOYFRIENDS on the other hand are tricky---many times it includes items found above but healthy relationships are when two people have come to know each others inperfections (lets face it we all have them) but learn to deal and with them. Usually there is a sexual connection between boyfriend and girl friend
2006-08-15 08:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by christiansareawesome 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in this situation and I stayed friends with my ex. Yes it does keep the feelings alive but it also helps to bring closure. I still love my ex even though we are friends and he is dating someone else, but all it does it help me to be a stronger person. If I can still be his friend after all this, than I know I'm a good person and that eventually I'll find the right person for me.
2006-08-15 08:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by shantiqua_99 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I find it akward trying to stay cool withan ex, I mean as muck as I would like to stay on good terms w/ ex girlfriends, it just doesn't feel right, it's like trying to force feed something, don't get me wrong if I run in to an ex, I would say hello, ask how she is doing, basically respect her, and not treat her with a bitter attitude, but I wouldn't not make an effort to hang with her like a buddy because it would be akward, unless of course our relationship ended on bad terms such as cheating, I don't know what I would do, good luck.
2006-08-15 08:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by shogun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to go along with your way of thinking but add that.. when you cross that line from friend to lovers.. it seem that the friendship does change because now both person know each other different..
and it is harder to see them with some one else because you know more than you should about your now ex friend and ex lover.
2006-08-15 08:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eh. I tried this. And it didn't work out only because he was jealous and upset. But I would've been fine with a friendship. I wasn't attracted to him anymore and we knew eachother so well, I just felt like WHY NOT be friends?
2006-08-15 08:37:15 · answer #6 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way its basically to painful being pals with an ex reason why did he or she injury up with you contained in the 1st place hell no i could not at all stay pals with a liar or a woman who lies and cheats
2016-09-29 07:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no need to be attached to the past. You broke up because there was nothing to hold on to anymore.
Some people stay friends with the ex for the sex.
2006-08-15 08:33:52 · answer #8 · answered by GDL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure exactly what ur asking but i am best friends with my ex and we dated exactly a year ago so.... i guess your feelings eventually become more friendly and less romantic.....of course this is from my personal experience.....good luck
2006-08-15 08:34:54 · answer #9 · answered by funlovingcaligurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on what u were with im for, if not much there other than sex then take it from me, no point in staying friends
2006-08-15 08:58:55 · answer #10 · answered by tony h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋