My Boyfriend and I live together, for a year now. We love each other, we're always together, now this girl from his past , who lives far away, started Text messaging and calling him, at all hours,
she'll write "sweet dreams" etc...
I havent discussed it with him, I know that I tend to get jealous, but I can't help but feel like she's trying to flirt with my man!
Help! should I talk to him, or will that make it worse?
(1 day ago - 7 answers )
2006-08-15 08:12:55 · 26 answers · asked by chicky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
idk what to say, because as much as i would recocment talking to your bf...i know what you mean how you think you might hurt something. like he might think you dont trust him. just remind him that its her you dont trust. or something like that...i guess talk to him. and make sure hes not encouraging the ex.
2006-08-15 08:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by sugar4sandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes you uncomfortable you should ask about it. You should express your concerns BUT not expect or force any change. If your man loves you and respects and cares about your feelings (granted they're not unreasonable- and if she is texting him non-stop and calling him non-stop more than say, you would talk to a best friend) than you should see some behavior change. Otherwise your problem is more so with your boyfriend who doesn't give a f*ck about you than her. They might really be close friends. I [tried] to be friends with an ex once and we did talk alot at first (than he got really jealous and upset because I started dating other people) but I only felt strict FRIENDSHIP For him. So that can happen. But... your situation is your situation, scope it out. But seeing as she's miles away and you two live together you probably don't have much to worry about other than the annoyance of it. So just express it to him, see his reaction. It will work out.
2006-08-15 08:19:31 · answer #2 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two have a good relationship and especially if you live together you need to have an open line of communication so casually talk to him about it don't get angry or defensive just ask him whats up. Do you think he would talk to you about if it was the other way around?
2006-08-15 08:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal for someone in a past relationship to start to text/call their X's. The reason is usually because they miss them and want them back. I would definitely talk to your boyfriend about it. he'll probably say it's nothing and you shouldn't worry about it. The truth is...it helps his ego knowing that 2 women are interested. She is trying to get him back so be cautious.
2006-08-15 08:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by Go Cats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you should , if she is text messaging him at all hours of the day you need to address that . If you don't like it let him know, you don't have to tell him to stop talking to her all together but tell him that you would like it if he talked to her a few times a month and that she can't be text messaging him at all hours of the day.
2006-08-15 08:20:25 · answer #5 · answered by audri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably have a chat with him. How do you know about the texts? Did he tell you about them or did you look on his phone? If you "snooped" & found the texts, you should probably still talk to him, but be prepared for him to be upset that you were checking up on him. ]
How does he respond to her texts & calls?
I'm a kinda jealous gf too, so I completely understand your confusion & fear....
2006-08-15 08:19:00 · answer #6 · answered by Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be jealous too!! If i were you i'd catch em from behind while he's texting her and ask who he's talkin to and if he tells you whats up then i wouldn't worry about it too much. She's probally just being pyscho!! But if he shys away or is short with you about it... then their might be something going on. You could try and text her with his phone and see what she says... but you probally just might wanna have some words with ur man!!! good luck
2006-08-15 08:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Gyna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no thats very not normal , she's psycho just like this girl i went out with twice(nothing happened) she kept texting me and calling me at all hours for over two years and even though i never picked up or responded my current girlfriend would get pissed off at me. next time she calls him answer the phone and tell that psycho off!
2006-08-15 08:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by 10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't be doing it, and he shouldn't be taking it. I would talk to him as calmly as possible...and suggest he change his cell phone number. If he really loves you, he will. If he's playing you for a fool, he'll make up a million excuses why he can't. How did she get his current cell phone number? Did he give it to her? See, if he did, he still wants her too.
2006-08-15 08:32:34 · answer #9 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say no! why in the hell is she calling and stuff? do they have kids together. If not then tell him to cut the crap out or you're gone. He is probably cheating on you. Dont be stupid, cause you see the signs...
2006-08-15 08:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by kram_7777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea she is definantly flirting. Why hasnt he told her that he has a new gf and that ya'll live togeather.
Is he hiding you from her?
If he is in a committed relationship with you he needs to tell her and ask her to stop if it bothers you.
2006-08-15 08:16:55 · answer #11 · answered by bree30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋