My sister has been on maternity leave and is due to go back to work in January. The problem is that she now really wants to stay at home to look after the 2 girls. She is in a wellpaid job, my brother in law not so. Should she sacrifice the financial benefits (saving for the girls university and give them a better start in life) and risk getting into debt or stay at home.
2006-08-15 08:02:14 · 19 answers · asked by Daisy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My sister asked me to ask the question by the way....
2006-08-15 08:14:00 · update #1
I believe that the first 5 years of a child's life is the most precious a mother can have with her children, although in this day and age it can be quite difficult on the financial side of things. If your sister thinks they can manage with less money I say tell her to go for it, you can never bring back those years
2006-08-15 08:16:07 · answer #1 · answered by CAROLE S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I had my two boys I worked in the city part-time because I felt the same way. Couldn't that be an option for her? Whatever she decides though, let it be her choice because it's her life. After a couple of years I was made redundant so I stayed at home and worked in a supermarket in the evenings until they went to school. Yes we had to sacrifice a lot but I couldn't care less. Being there for them meant more to me. She can always get another good job when they start school? Or maybe her husband could better his career? My husband did that and we are no longer struggling. Just a few options.
2006-08-15 08:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know more and more families where the woman is the highest earner. Why not get the husband to stay at home and your sister can go back to work. I realise that's not an easy decision and wouldn't work for everyone but it solves the financial problem and (hopefully) she wouldn't suffer from working Mum 'guilt' knowing that her girls were being adequately looked after at home.
2006-08-15 08:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by Away With The Fairies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she can always postpone going back to work. She has someone there to pitch in with paying the bills. She just has to know that it will be a bit of a struggle with only one not so good income. Besides, she can always go back to work or find a new job if she decides, stay at home mom is not what she wants to do.
2006-08-15 08:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by philly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about take a year out, or do part time, or work from home, or any combination. Having a lower income doesn't have to mean getting into debt- as long as she can resist the urge to spend money she no longer has. I'm surprised she doesn't want to get back to work, if only for adult conversation. Babies are rubbish conversationalists.
2006-08-15 08:12:10 · answer #5 · answered by Oracle Of Delphi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in this dilemma and my suggestion is that she look at this objectively.
Are she and her husband willing and able to make the financial sacrifices necessary for her to stay at home full time. If not, are there options for her to work at home or part time?
My hat is off to her, because this is not an easy dilemma.
2006-08-15 08:09:07 · answer #6 · answered by Searcher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i put my career on hold when i had my baby and its the best think ever because i feel a child needs to be with their mum or dad at such a young age! i say an whats the point in having children just to let someone else bring them up! my baby is so much more advanced for her age b'cos of been at home with me some people will argue that they need to be in nurserys to socialize but thets not true we go to lots of mother and baby groups and do lots of things with friend and there children! (we are so busy i would'nt be able to fit work in) when she starts svhool i will then return to work!
but tell her to choose whats right for her everyone is differnet and what works for 1 does'nt always work for another!
i wish her luck
2006-08-15 09:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by lillypops 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up the individual, there's no point in doing something your happy and content with, if things become really bad maybe you consider something later on. REMEMBER-being in a full-time job means you pay you children very little attention, how will you get to know your children, make friends with them, pay attention to them etc, money buys everything not happiness, DON'T FORGET YOUR PRIORITIES.
2006-08-15 08:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by sash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way she can arrange with her company to work part time from home?? Alot of companies now a days are willing to do this so that they don't loose a valued employee..... have her check it out.
2006-08-15 08:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could she go part time or work from home for a while . i know i hated going back to work after i had my son but if i had not gone back to work we could not do the things we do with our son. she needs to follow her heart and do what she thinks is best don't let any one judge you
2006-08-15 08:30:09 · answer #10 · answered by mammysue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋