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Question

okay, well my family and i have been planning to go to mexico for vacation, just my mom, dad, brother and me and we've never had a just-us vacation someone always comes along because my mom's side of the family is really close. well as i said, we have planned for thois and we leave tomorrow. So now my aunt says that she already bought two airline tickets for my two cousins to go to mexico with us without asking. Do i have a reason to be mad? because most of the time now, my emotions get in the way of me realizing what i should really be feeling...help please thanks

Answer 1

I would be mad and voice how you feel. It was unfair for you aunt to do this with out asking your family, and your parents should tell her that they are sorry, but they can't come. It is unfair to you and your brother.

Answer 2

There is no use in getting upset because all that will do is cause more tension than what is already there. I would be honest and say how you were looking forward to having a vacation with just your immediate family. Be honest with how you feel in a calm manor. Tomorrow will be here before you know it and its too late because the other family members are obviously going without being invited. Make the best of it. Suggest to your parents a day or two where its just your family going on an outing. Make the best of it - anger and upset wont do anything but cause YOUR vacation to be uncomfortable. Enjoy Mexico - its a beautiful place.

Answer 3

It's not wrong for you to be mad because you wanted to have a vacation alone with your family. A family unit needs time alone without extended family sometimes. It was rude of your aunt to just buy the tickets and not even ask your parents what they had plans for. Sounds like your parents need to put their foot down and just say straight out that they want a vacation alone with only their children.
Don't be mad at your cousins though - it's not their fault. I'm sure you will all have a good time regardless. But, you should feel free to talk to your parents about how you feel and about how you were looking forward to spending time with just them and your brother.

Answer 4

Do you have the right to be mad? Yes.

For some time, you and your family have been planning on this trip for just the 4 of you, and suddenly - the day before you leave - you find out that there will be more people coming along on the trip. Now, who is it that you should be upset with? That is the question? Did your aunt know that the trip was supposed to be for only the 4 of you? If she did, then you should be upset with your aunt for not respecting your immediate family's wish of taking a trip amongst yourselves. However, don't be angry with your cousins. It's not as though THEY purchased the tickets on their own.

Answer 5

Yes, you have a reason to be mad. If this is something you planned, and it is suppose to be only your family, you have all the right in the world to be annoyed.

But, can you do something about it? Probably not.

So be mad, throw a cup against the wall, swear at the dog, do whatever you need to do to blow off steam. But then, let it go, otherwise you will have a really terrible holiday and afterwards you'll feel like you, and not the uninvited guests, spoilt the holiday for everyone.

Have fun in Mexico!

Answer 6

Well, because they were rude, I understand why you feel this way. However, if it's already done, then just make the best of it for now and on your next vacation, speak up! Tell your parents "Hey, I love my Aunt and Cousins! But I love you guys more and I really want to have one trip that's just us! What do you guys think??" and that way, you've at least said something! I always appreciate someone who has a strong opinion! It's good for everyone!

Answer 7

you have every right to be mad...but at the same time, what's done is done and you can not change it! so you can tell your mom and dad how you feel, but don't let it spoil your vacation! there might be times while you are in Mexico that you'll be glad that your cousins are there.

maybe next time you and your family plan for your next "just you" time you can ask your parents to inform your other relatives that it is just for you guys only, no surprise cousins or anybody else. that way you are guaranteed to have just you and your family alone.

try to chill a little ok? you'll be glad you did! enjoy your vacation!!

Answer 8

I can understand how that would be irritating. Have you ever talked with your mother how you feel? (or your relatives for that matter?) It is important to have family time with your immediate family. Perhaps you can let them know gently how much you were looking forward to spending some time with your mom, dad and brother. Do you think your parents will listen or do they not have a problem with other family coming along univited?

In a nutshell: I'd be frustrated too. Try talking to your parents, then just try to have a good time on your vacation. Don't let this situation ruin your good time.

Answer 9

what's the problem ~ you are going to Mexico. Many of us can't for different reasons and the more people you have there the better it would be. Enjoy your family, enjoy your vacation. When you get back, maybe you can plan an evening or a weekend someplace special with you, mum, dad, and your brother.

Answer 10

I can see how that would interfere with your plans. You shouldn't be mad but just consider it kinda cool that your family is that close to even like to spend their vacations together. In other words don't sweat the small stuff, enjoy your time with your family, I'm sure your going to have a great time.
The decision about who comes along is better left up to your parents.

Answer 11

I believe you have every right to be mad, this was your vacation just you and your family. I would let your aunt know that she should have let you known before she bought the plane tickets. Thats wrong just to assume that you can go without asking.