2006-08-15 07:58:39 · 38 answers · asked by Rhonda N 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I tolerate magazines and occasional porn, I do not feel a guy should be in the same room as a naked chick. I feel that if he loves me that he should respect the fact that it would hurt me. I have compromised. I mean, isn't it a form of cheating. You know your gonna think oh man I would love to do that, and that would feel good. I bet she'd be good. To even think about sex with someone else is cheating I feel. I don't want to be hurt and I know I can't tell him what to do. Part of me wants to break up with him so I don't get hurt cuz I would break up with him if he did go, cuz obviously he doesn't respect how I feel. It sux knowing he has an easy way to get rid of me. I am making an issue out of something that may never be an issue, but I can't help it. I don't want to be looking over my shoulder waiting for a bomb to drop.
2006-08-15 08:46:40 · update #1
I tolerate magazines and occasional porn, I do not feel a guy should be in the same room as a naked chick. I feel that if he loves me that he should respect the fact that it would hurt me. I have compromised. I mean, isn't it a form of cheating. You know your gonna think oh man I would love to do that, and that would feel good. I bet she'd be good. To even think about sex with someone else is cheating I feel. I don't want to be hurt and I know I can't tell him what to do. Part of me wants to break up with him so I don't get hurt cuz I would break up with him if he did go, cuz obviously he doesn't respect how I feel. It sux knowing he has an easy way to get rid of me. I am making an issue out of something that may never be an issue, but I can't help it. I don't want to be looking over my shoulder waiting for a bomb to drop.
2006-08-15 09:06:45 · update #2
No, it's not. Some women think it's a form of cheating. I can understand their position. And, I think that women should avoid strip clubs if their man objects.
2006-08-15 08:05:16 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, not in a million years. Now a couple things I have heard about strip clubs (because me having a girlfriend, I really don't need to go to any places like that for any reason), only a very select few allow the patrons to receive "services" from the employees (you know what I mean by that), and those select few are also offering those services illegally because as far as I know in both Canada and the majority of the U.S.A, prostitution is illegal. All any guy would be going there to do is to look. But I can understand how that would make a girlfriend feel, as she would feel like she's being compared to whoever's on the stage performing. So to keep the girlfriend from feeling that way, I say it's definitely not ok unless the girlfriend says it's ok and is even one to tag along.
2006-08-15 08:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it depends on the situation. If its more because of trust, then you have somethings to talk about. I go and my wife knows I'm coming back home to her. Some woman think strip clubs are full of sex and drugs, etc. Maybe take her one time and let her see it's no big deal. if you do take her you might want to stay away from lap dances though! Another thing to think about is, is it worth hurting her to see some girls? I had a girlfriend that didn't want me going, I went anyway and lets just say it didn't last. I won't say its wrong but would you mind if she went? If not then maybe it's not wrong, if you would be mad or hurt then don't go.
2006-08-15 08:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by Go Cats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you're the two Christians there shouldn't additionally be any communicate, it somewhat is incorrect no count number in case you're in a courting or no longer. to shelter a woman to lust after her is adultery. What are strip golf equipment for yet circulate and lust after the ladies. you sense indignant and rightly so. he's utilising the excuse that "the different mens different halves and girlfriends do no longer care to conceal up the undeniable fact that he basically needs to circulate to the strip club. i ought to not at all comprehend why a strip club has lots charm for a guy who's approximately to get married. is mindless.. If he circulate's in spite of how you sense or what you think of, then he's putting his emotions, needs and desires past to yours and that's incorrect. It take 2 to make a courting, no longer one provides and the different one takes. For Christians, definite, strip golf equipment are incorrect, no count number the way you slice it. Even earlier I grew to develop right into a Christian, i ought to not at all see any experience in a woman or a guy, getting up in front of a crowd of human beings and bare their all. it somewhat is asinine. i could verify your courting and discover out the place you think of it somewhat is going or the place you sense it would circulate if he maintains like he's. there is no longer something incorrect with you. you're reaction is properly. If there is something incorrect with him, you or the two one in all you, it's time to take a seat down and communicate it over yet him going to a strip club isn't assisting concerns alongside and wont if he maintains. If he maintains to be insensitive then you should to circulate on with your life without him.
2016-09-29 07:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by laseter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not do it to my girlfriend.
I have been to many strip clubs. I have not had a desire to go when I had a girlfriend. Whether she approved of it or not.
Strip clubs are like heavy drinking - OK when you're a bunch of college guys out on the town, but past age 30 it becomes pathetic.
Just my opinion.
2006-08-15 08:21:21 · answer #5 · answered by American citizen and taxpayer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what I have to say is this, if I'm with somebody, I wouldn't do anything to hurt, especially if I knwo ti will hurt if I do certain things. Besides, why in the world you would go to the strip club if you had a b/f or g/f when you have a stipper right there with you.
2006-08-15 08:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a girl, but i don't think it's okay if the guy knows his gf would be hurt. If she's okay with it then go for it! But otherwise why do you have the need to go there in the first place? You have a girlfriend!
2006-08-15 08:04:01 · answer #7 · answered by misomeow 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
II would not go if I was in a serious relationship and she asked me not too. Love is full of sacrifices and adaptations that both sides must be willing to make.
2006-08-15 08:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not if it would hurt her, No. having said that, maybe she (the girlfriend) needs to give the boyfriend something he is not getting. Just a thought.
2006-08-15 08:05:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only reason it would hurt you is if you didn't trust him or you were very jealous. Either way, relationships with those problems don't usually work out.
2006-08-15 08:09:46 · answer #10 · answered by seeinred06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋