I've came out of some bad relationships in the past and lately i've noticed a growing fear/paranoia of rejection.
I just started dating (about a month) a sweet guy, and for some reason I'm constantly paranoid - like that he's purposely not answering my calls, when something comes up he's lying ect...
He's done NOTHING for me to think this way, and actually does the opposite, spends a lot of time with me and complains when we can't see each other or I leave early because of work ect..
I havn't told him that I feel like this because we're still so new.. so any ways I can calm my nerves? Can't keep thinking these thoughts...
2006-08-15 07:50:17 · 5 answers · asked by attila 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That means that something in you is insecure. You should probably work on why you fear rejection and are paranoid. No one likes rejection and we all get a little paranoid, but you need to be able to live a normal life without this interupting. You should be happy with who you are even if you do get rejected.
2006-08-15 07:58:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I go through the same thing & I'm also in a new dating relationship. Everytime the fear rears its ugly head - I TRY (but not perfect) to stay calm through it . I don't try to stop the fear, I simply just let it "be" like ride out the wave of insecurity. It might sound corny but when I give into the fear/paranoia, it only causes me to behave in a way that does exactly what I DON'T want it to do - which is push people away and cause the rejection.
I have talked about this with my guy - but very SLOWLY - I don't want to overwhelm him.... just my experience!
2006-08-15 15:08:16 · answer #2 · answered by JeyJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually had this same thing happen to me. You are doing what ex-girlfriend would do. Personally speaking, when I am in a relationship I try to focus on that person. When I am with them I am with just them. I felt that even though I did nothing wrong and always explained everything I would still be doubted. I hated that because I took that relationship and woman very seriously. I would suggest telling him what is on your mind and why. If he really wants to works towards something he will understand. Make sure he knows that you are not accusing him of anything.
Eventually he will pick up on your fears and it might be best to let him know. It is kind of creepy how similar this situation was to mine. By the way, I understood her fears because of bad relationships and did not deter me one bit. In fact it made me want to show her that not every guy out there wants to hurt her. I think if you give your guy a chance he will understand.
2006-08-15 15:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him about your previous relationships, and that will help him understand better. And you guys will grow as a couple and may even get closer :-) and trust me you will feel alot better!
2006-08-15 14:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Incredible 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU GOT SHAKE OUTA THAT STAGE OR U'LL LOOSE SOMEONE REALLY SPECIAL
2006-08-15 14:56:02 · answer #5 · answered by ICEE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋