to play with dolls??? My boy is 20 moths & I have a daughter (5yrs)..My boy likes to play with cars & he likes to fight or play hard with dad, but there is a doll that my daugther has looks like a real baby it is fill with water so it is a little heavy too...But he treats the doll like a real baby, with love and real careful , he is not like other boys who hit the dolls or take off the head. Some people had told me that it is a good sign that he migth turn to be a loving father because he also likes and treats the same way to little boys & girls & maybe the fact that I'm pregnant has something to do with this behavior or I don't know tha's what I think.... But is it good or bad for a boy to be this way ??? any suggestions or advices on this ..... :)
2006-08-15 07:49:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Don't stress out. My 15 month old son plays with dolls, and so does my nephew who's 2. I don't think there is anything wrong with it. My nephew has a brother, no sisters, and he's played with a doll for quite some time now, and he's totally a normal boy. He loves playing with boy toys, but there are occasions when he'll pick up his doll and just go play. My son is the same way, but he has 2 older sisters, so that might be part of why he plays with dolls also. Even my husband had a doll as a child. I seriously don't think you have ANYTHING to worry about. So relax and enjoy your children.
2006-08-15 07:57:01 · answer #1 · answered by kaije03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your son is excited for a new baby on the way so he is treating the doll like he would the baby on the way. If he starts to play, maybe try to get him to play something else. If he really continues, then just get rid of the doll. Congrats on the baby!
2006-08-15 14:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by *-*90210*-* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's only 20 months old. I've seen young boys play with dolls. I haven't seen young boys (under 2 years) throw or hit dolls either. Little kids like toys and dolls with big eyes or that resemble cute babies. That's why cartoon characters have big eyes. He'll most likely grow out of it and start to be interested in big boy stuff.
2006-08-15 16:29:51 · answer #3 · answered by Jp83 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how lucky are you?! everyone is right - there is nothing "wrong" with this behavior, just like there is nothing "right" about him playing with cars. my son wouldn't play with a doll if you gave him candy with it, but he is partial to the color pink, hee hee, drives my husband nuts. my mother was a kindergarden teacher for years (she's now an administrator) and she says that little boys loved the "home center" (kitchen etc) more than the girls did. i think you're right on that this has something to do with your being pregnant, and he will probably be a sweet, nuturing, kind big brother -- again, how lucky are you? the other aspect here is that your 20 month old will probably outgrow this to some degree. even if you don't tell boys it's "wrong" to play with dolls, they just grow out of it, so enjoy it while it lasts! but you're at an advantage - you can praise him for being so sweet to the doll and tell him that you know he'll be just as sweet to his new sibling when they arrive. he'll transfer his affection very easily. congrats on your growing family and on having such a sweet little boy!
2006-08-15 16:28:09 · answer #4 · answered by Manny and Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont personally think so! I worked at a day care and one little boy played with a doll all the time. He's going to be alot of help with the new baby. Congradulations!
2006-08-15 14:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by Reeta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not bad; in fact it can be helpful. With a new baby on the way you will be busy with diapers and feedings and your son's doll will give him something to do. he can do all the things to his doll that you will be doing for the new baby, thus making him feel more involved. The benefit for you is he is occupied.
2006-08-15 17:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing "wrong" with your son playing with a doll like that is that other parents and other boys may make fun of him because the old socialization of boys being rough-and-tumble and not nurturing individuals is so ingrained in their heads. If other people have a problem with your son playing with a doll like that, it's their problem, NOT HIS AND NOT YOURS. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your son's behavior, so for crying out loud don't discourage it.
2006-08-15 14:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by sarge927 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong. Despite traditional societal expectations and pressures, I believe there is no wrong or right way for a child (boy or girl) to act.
He's learning great nurturing skills and compassion, and he likely is playing witht he dolls to play with his sister.
It's a good thing. I suggest you stop thinking about what a boy should or should not do, and think about him as a child, just as any other, who is having fun, playing and growing as a person.
2006-08-15 19:00:29 · answer #8 · answered by ceemcee05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I LOVE IT!!! I agree that this shows he is developing compassion. My grandson takes stuffed animals up to his neck and pats their backs and says "Oh, baby" in a soft voice. That means he is seeing you treat babies well.
And how could it be wrong? I am hoping you are not thinking that playing with dolls makes a boy gay. Girls play with footballs, but they don't all become lesbians. And, if they do, won't you love them just the same.
Let him play the way he is, unless he hurts someone or himself.
2006-08-15 14:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking in an interest in babies is hardly homosexual behaviour. If you hadn't noticed, most fathers are heterosexual ;)
It sounds like your son is a great kid. Being able to 'play hard' and roughhouse, and then turn that off and being gentle with a baby is exactly the kind of comfort level yet control over aggression we should all hope our sons develop as they become young men.
Sounds like he'll be a good older brother.
2006-08-15 15:16:34 · answer #10 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋