I am a guy -When you take someone on the first date is it appropriate to pay for the entire night or not instead of splitting it up between each other? How about if you go out on anymore dates?
2006-08-15 07:47:01 · 12 answers · asked by stealth5033 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, traditionally the first date is always paid for by the guy. My experience has been that guys have paid for the 3 dates we have been out on and from then on I ask to split the bill on the date. So by the 4 date on, we split it in half...depending on the financial situation. So, if you are going out with someone, then you should pay for the first date, unless she offers to pay...if she offers to pay, then you should say.."Ok, how about this...I pay for our first date and then we can split it next time...and perhaps you can pay for the movies or something.." This way she will split the bill with you.
Another thing is, it totally depends on the chick, some chicks think that the guy should pay for everything since he asked her out...some chicks think its only fair to split the date because things are so expensive, I mean just going to the movies nowadays is costs about $40 bucks (snacks and drinks included), if that part of the date cost $40 bucks and dinner costs another $40, that's a lot for one date...so...some girls actually don't mind splittling the bill.
So, my suggestion is, try to figure out what kinda gal she is before going out with her...and on the first date you should pay for most of the date if not all, and then see if she wants to go out again, and perhaps ask her to split the bill based on the activity.
Note: that chicks who are willing to split the bill are more independent and maybe financially stable...chicks that aren't willing to split the bill are either selfish, dependent on someone else financially (like parents), or aren't independent.
I know when I first started dating my bf he paid for the first 2 or 3 dates and then I offered to pay, but I didn't have a lot of money because I didn't work and I lived with my parents (I was 18 and he was 20), and so I always tried to pay the tip, since I would always have a few bucks in my purse. But, eventually after we became a couple, I got a job so I could pay for dates, presents, vacations and etc. So it totally depends on the type of girl she is...and if she doesn't offer to pay for something by the 3rd date...then most likely she may not have any intentions to pay.
2006-08-15 07:59:20 · answer #1 · answered by monavyas15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me, i like it when a woman pays for a date, or at least for her half. It shows independence and that she's not looking to use you as a personal bank account. It is gnetlemanly to pay for the first date if you ask her out but I would suggest something simple and inexpensive for a first date so that you will get to know one another before you start shelling out for big dates. You don't want to seem like you're buying her time. (that makes you look like a sucker and her look whorish) And if the girl insists that you spend a certain amount or do something very expensive (even if you have more than enough money) then you should be concerned as she might be a gold digger. When you're sure she's not so materialistic then its cool to spend more for a place both of you want to go.
2006-08-15 14:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you asked her out, it would be nice to pay for the entire and maybe the next 2 or 3. Then when you guys become a couple, split the bill.
2006-08-15 14:53:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always pay for the first date.
Then keep paying. In my opinion if she doesnt offer to pay for one after 4 or 5 times.....well then you have to think about what kind of women she is. Some guys are fine with that, and by then you'll have a better idea how much money she makes.
If she makes a lot less than you.....you might consider to continue paying.
If its about the same, she should have offered at somepoint and I'd consider her pretty selfish.
If she makes a lot more than you... marry her.
2006-08-15 14:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by SillyQuestion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you ask someone out for a date to me that was your option to ask so it is up to you to take care of the bill. Now when you become a couple then she can help pay for some of them..Not the first date...
2006-08-15 14:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wont be a date if the guy doesn't pay for every thing. On the first date you need to make a good impression. Now shearing a meal is romantic and also saves money. That's what my date does and I think its okay.
2006-08-15 14:53:21 · answer #6 · answered by tonya86_chipmunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your a guy its a sweet gesture to pay for everything
especially on the first date
but in the future if you end up goin out with this girl there will be time that you two should split or at least she tip in
2006-08-15 14:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by tb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should pay for the entire night. Just make sure that she has a good time.
2006-08-15 14:52:42 · answer #8 · answered by Brandon S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spring for the first date. Show her you're a baller. Then, down the road, if you still date her, bring up the idea that she shouldn't be shy about kicking in.
2006-08-15 14:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by jeff15116 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first date pay
3 more pay
she will offer soon
2006-08-15 14:53:20 · answer #10 · answered by jessie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋