We've been together like 9 years. I don't know what i can do w/ my future.
2006-08-15 07:40:54 · 33 answers · asked by ABCCCCCC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I will give you the advice my mother gave me - which was probably the best advice she ever gave me....
People come in and out of your life for a reason. Don't look for that same love you had because each love is unique like the people in the relationship. That seems to be the problem for most people they tend to look for that same someone they lost, but reality is...it is impossible to replace. Stay positive - it will take a long time to heal, go out and have fun...be excited about the potential new person you will meet in the future.
2006-08-15 07:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jeffrey S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's naturall, and it's called a withdrawal period. If you've been with somebody for such a long time and then you all of a sudden see it ending then it becomes really hard to see yourself in relationship again. Think about it this way: if your parents would have decided to abandon you when you turned 9, would you really want to be with anybody again, would you trust anybody else? So the thing is to recognize that it's all ok and it will pass with time and chances are that you are better off anyways that you saw this ending sooner than leter. I'm sure things are going to work out and you will find somebody way more interesting that they guy, it's his loss anyways
2006-08-15 07:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by George 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible to fall in love again, the only reason u feel like this is bc u've spent 9 yrs of ur life by someone and not having them there leaves an empty spot in ur life, but it wont be there for long you have to move on and search around, you will find someone special thats right for u.
2006-08-15 07:45:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's seems like he initiated the break up, since you feel down. And the feeling of inability to love somebody else shows that you still love him/her. Just let it go as it is. There will be a time when you’ll find someone whom you will be comfortable with, and the ‘love’ will come again.
2006-08-15 07:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by Vladimir Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal for many... in the same boat. Dated, went 'steady', then set a marriage date and found out she was cheating with her X. Been 2 YEARS and still don't feel anything over friendship for those I've been out with even though they have felt 'love' for me and even asked me to marry. Just not there yet. Healing takes time.
2006-08-15 07:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by The::Mega 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't lose your ability to love. It's just 9 years being with one person is a lot. You just need more time to get over it but you'll get there. Good luck
2006-08-15 07:45:40 · answer #6 · answered by marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my ex broke up a year and a half ago and I haven't had any relations with a man since then. I had to take time out to find out who I am and what i want out of a relationship. And deciding I will not settle for less. It's hard but you will be fine.
2006-08-15 07:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by pattie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel that way....the dating again thing is a scarey world out there... Time makes it easier.. when one door closes another one opens.. could be the love of your life is just waiting and glad you are free to be with them now.
2006-08-15 07:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is normal but why after 9 years did you 2 decide to break it off?? you'll move on sooner or later
2006-08-15 07:45:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
9 years is a long time to spend with someone and then to just not have them anymore....the feelings you are having are normal...you just hhavent moved on yet....there is no way to know if it will ever happen and if you will ever get over it but you have to spend less time worrying about it and then maybe you will be able to move on......good luck
2006-08-15 07:45:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋