There is this girl that I have known for years, but lately we have become much closer. I have come to find that she has low self-esteem because people say stuff about her. I have also come to know that she admires me in some way. I have liked her personally for years, but until lately, I had no romantic interest. Everytime I see her she says something derogitory about herself, and I am always trying to complement her to build her self-confidence. I really care about her, and I hate to see people putting her down. In that feeling, I have some mixed emotions that tend to make me think I love her. We are mere friends, but even if it stays that way I feel compelled to help her. Can someone please help me sort out the answers to my questions with new thoughts.
2006-08-15 07:27:17 · 2 answers · asked by +TheEndIsInSight+ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Feel free to ask questions, but I need some advice. I am open to everything said, and thanks in advance for the help!
2006-08-15 07:28:47 · update #1
There is no real answer to this question but what I have learned of what love is to me and that is the word LOVE itself holds the answer.......
(L)isten: and validate them by hearing and empathizing.
(O)verlook: their minor character flaws as they will overlook yours.
(V)alue: who they are and what they mean to you.
(E)xpress: how you love them not just with words but with actions.
2006-08-18 16:20:40 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
watch out you don't fall into the damsel in distress/white knight routine where you get a kick out of helping someone and confuse the feelings
She may say derogatory things about herself in front of you so that you feel you have to compliment her.She may just have low self esteem, be there for her as a friend but make sure the friendship is a 2 way street
2006-08-17 14:55:40 · answer #2 · answered by j j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋