When we first started dating, we would see eachother at least 4 times a week, now if I see him twice a week then I'm lucky. I work full time and so does he. We talk on the phone all the time through out the day but when it comes to going out, I guess it's just not there anymore. I know he loves me and I love him and want to spend all my time with him but I almost feel like it's not the same anymore. I believe that no matter how long you've been with a person you always have to have that "spark" between you guys.. I just dont see him looking forward to seeing me, and honestly I dont either. I love spending time with him but I just dont know if he does. We go on double dates with our two best friends and everything is ok but when it comes down to him and I being alone, I just dont see him being excited/... what should I do?? is it a problem??? I love to go out and have fun and his a more homey person, that would rather get a movie and just stay home.. Sorry I kow this was long...lol
2006-08-15 06:56:38 · 8 answers · asked by SharaG 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you should definitely tell him how you feel, exactly what you have told us here. If you guys have been dating for that long then you should be able to have these talks with him. If he doesn't change by all means start going out without him, I'm sure you're too young to be waiting around for someone who doesn't even try to give you the time you deserve!
2006-08-15 07:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see where you say that you actually ask(ed) him if he enjoys hanging out with you anymore. It seems like you're assuming.. and if that's the case, you're causing yourself more harm than good. If you don't know how he feels, you can't really take any actions one way or another.
On another hand, maybe you two can take a break from a relationship, slow things down, and see other people. Two things can happen from that: you both meet people that you gel better with or you find out that what you have is special in its own right and make it work.
2006-08-15 14:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you have found out that sometimes it's not forever and it's time to move on believe me if both of you don't feel it it's not going to be the same i have been in the same situation but with longer, if you started to grow apart that's a clue you must be young so it's not so bad to move on you will see that the right man and i mean man will come along for you and do the things you like because he does love you it's a little give and take you will know who is right but at this time deep down you know this one is not
good luck and god bless.
2006-08-15 14:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by jade tiger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem you is, you have let an lot of people in your relationship and you see them more than yon see each other. You have to have less friends and keep to yourselves. Also you have to get a new thing to talk about, and a new place to go.
2006-08-15 14:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 30 years of marriage the spark was still there for me. So I would have to say that perhaps this relationship is not ment to last, if you say there is no longer any spark.
2006-08-15 14:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to him about how you feel...see if he feels the same way...maybe you need to take a break for a while and just be friends
2006-08-15 14:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by bubabe_08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about doing things that he likes to do. switch it up sometimes, one weekend you go out and the other weekend stay home. you will be amazed at how much fun staying at home can be.
2006-08-15 14:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by babygirl31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send me your picture and I'll tell you what to do. Maybe he doesnt want to be with you anymore and he doesn't know how to tell you.
2006-08-15 14:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by Frank M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋