my daughter 3 1/2 years old doesnt want to sleep all the time into some tantrum what should i do to calm her?

Answer 1

Often a tantrum is a child's tactic to get attention, upset the parent, and ultimately get his/her way. It's a natural thing, something all children do, but something that needs to be trained out of them.

The best way I've seen to deal with tantrums of any kind is to first resolve not to get upset yourself, and also to not give in. That way the child isn't getting any satisfaction out of the tantrum and they eventually stop. If this is during some sleep time, just tell her she needs to go to sleep and that you are going to leave the room so that she can calm down and do just that. Then leave the room. If she tries to come out, just lay her down again and leave again. Remain CALM, and make sure your voice stays even and soft. But stay resolute.

If you think that she is scared, talk to her about that outside of the actual bedtime situation, offer music and see what she says about that. If you think she's overtired, put her to bed before she gets too frantic. If you think she isn't sleepy, have more active play so that she's more worn out at bedtime. But those issues can be resolved and discussed during the day, which will take the volatility out of it.

Good luck!

Answer 2

OK, this one is going to upset some people, but here I go.

Set the rules, schedules, and let her have her tantrum. Do nothing. Just tell her before hand that if she has one that the length of time for what ever she was going to do does not start until the tantrum is over.

This age is where they are testing you. Finding out what buttons you have. Let it rip you up on the inside but be tough as stone on the outside. This is how it is and you need to deal with it.

I know some think that 3 is a bit young, but if you don't start young, it will just be harder later on.

Being a parent is TOUGH. I have 4 and made many mistakes, but this one was the toughest mistake I made with the first one.

I am a father raising 4 daughters with my partner now (3 are mine and I raised them by myself as a single father for 4 years). it can really be tough to do the hard things, but in the end when they get it and they grow and shine and understand things like rules, schedules, balance, and family, you will thank yourself for the internal pain.

Good luck.

Answer 3

C'mon Raj the answer is in your question. She's only 3 1/2 yrs leave her alone let her enjoy 3.5 will never come back again plz put up if she doesnt want to sleep let her not sleep. Babys of that age they say can stay upto 22 days without food and upto 5 dys w/o sleep.

Answer 4

my daughter is 2, and sometimes at night she will make an enormous fuss about going to bed, and it is usually because she did not eat enough at dinner, and after she has a bite to eat, she goes down easy. Try making them a piece of toast or something, to see if that helps.

Also, I have created a routine, bathtime, brush teeth, pajamas, kiss daddy goodnight, and then storytime (1 or 2 books), then a sip of juice, and then lights out. Sometimes I just lay with her for a few minutes just until she falls asleep. I am told this is a bad habit, but 5 minutes in her bed or half the night in ours, I've made my choice.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Are you talking about naptime or bedtime?

She has to know that she may not have to sleep during this time, but she MUST have quiet time. She can either lay in bed and relax or play QUIETLY with a small toy or two, but she can not get out of bed or disturb you unless something wrong.

More often than not, at her age it's a power thing, and if you enforce the quiet time, she'll sleep. During waking hours, keep her busy. Make sure you have plenty of active time for her. Otherwise, she'll be bored and frustrated and not want to sleep or rest.

Answer 6

Yeah, kinda normal, try physically exhauste her during the day so she is very tired and falls asleep fast. She'll start liking the bed because that'll be place where she gets to rest. Just sign her up for sports, she needs to burn some energy - that also lowers the amount of tantrums a lot!

Answer 7

Approach the problem psychologically.
1 she is upset about what ?
2. What is being liked by her most ?
3. Calm her with the help of rhymes, songs, or video CDs etc.
4. She being too young and as she cannot
express the feeling of hunger, always
see to it that she is never left hungry.

Answer 8

I have a two year old that had the same problem. What I did was remove all stimulation for example, lights, television, anything she could look at. Once the room was completely dark she would fuss and eventually go to sleep. Now she knows that when the lights go out, it's bedtime.

Answer 9

Try explaining to her why it is not okay to throw a tantrum. Maybe to get her to fall asleep try laying down on the couch with her with a blanket or teddy bear and watch a movie with her. this never fails to put my five year brother old to sleep.

Answer 10

Let her cry it out. If you give into them they will cry more to get attention. I have been doing this to my son since he was born (he is 2-1/2 now) and he only cries (rarely) for no more then 10-15 minutes. I go in after them, lay him back down and cover him up, even if he is still crying. I can sleep with him crying and making a fuss but my wife can't.