ok well i was friends with this kid and i liked his little sister so i asked him if it was alright if i go out with her and it was ..so we dated for like 8 months .. we were really in love and we got into a fight after my one friend died and her brother asked what was up with the fight and i said she was being a ***** ..and he didnt like that ...so her and i stayed with it and he didnt like it but we never gave up ...and its been 7months now that this was keeping up and she thinks that we should give up but we still love eachother ...what should i do :'(
2006-08-15 06:30:59 · 29 answers · asked by brian s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should quit being a whiney little cry baby, especially here in public.
2006-08-15 06:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always say you are sorry after a fight. Say you were wrong, she was right. Even if she was wrong. Give her candy or flowers if she likes them. Never call your girlfriend bad names to her face or behind her back. Give her a good reason for what you did, like you were upset and temporarily insane because your friend died. Tell her lots of times how beautiful and lovely she is. Tell her how you miss the fun you used to have with her. Keep trying, you might get her in a weak moment and she may take you back. But if she doesn't after a reasonable amount of time, give up and find someone prettier so you can make her jealous!
2006-08-15 06:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This conflict has been going on for 7 months? That's pretty serious. Do y'all go to church, or are you in school? You could see a minister or a counselor to help you work things out between you, and that might help. If not, you could find a couple's therapist.
If that's not a possibility, have you and your GF sat down and spoken really directly about why she wants to leave? Has she asked for changes that you aren't willing to make? Do you want her to make changes she isn't willing to make? Where is the problem? Your friend's death may have been a trigger, but it can't be the cause of 7 months of strife.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-15 06:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by TechnoMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone says things they don't mean. Apologize to her then to her brother and tell him you said something in the heat of the moment and you will never call her that again. If you two love each other...then you should stay together and try to make a mends with her brother. Good luck!
2006-08-15 06:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound really young so I doubt this is a relationship that is meant to be. If she wants to leave it is for more reason than you are saying.... let her go. If she really does love you and you her then you will have to put the effort in to make it work... which means not regarding what others say or think. Good luck.
2006-08-15 06:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by klmartine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not dating her brother so he needs to back off and give you 2 room to work it out on your own. Tell her what was said between her brother and you and go from there, if she thinks you should seperate then there is nothing more you can do to keep her
2006-08-15 06:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all how old are you two? and second if you love each other then find a way to work it out. don't let a sibling of hers or yours tell you whats best in your relationship because they're not in it, so they cant possibly know what it would feel like to lose any of you in that relationship. but also you have to remember that sometimes when you love a person you have to let them go to see if its meant to be, and if so then that love will return no matter how long it takes.
2006-08-15 06:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by pumkin82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't make your girlfriend stay with you, just like she shouldn't "make" you stay with her. When your time is up it's up. It's a double, triple or even a quadruple bummer but it's all a part of life. The longer you drag it out the worse it becomes. There's longing and all kinds of emotions but it's necessary. You'll find your way again, but you have to move to do it.
Good luck.
2006-08-15 06:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by cboni2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your description, you still harbour feelings of Love for each other . But it seems to me the situation is not going to be getting any better. So unfortunately I have to advise you to part ways as not to hurt anyone feelings further due to the relationships.
Or you could both go to couple's counselling to resolve any issues you both may harbour for each other, If you think the relationship is worth salvaging.
2006-08-15 06:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by Arzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't make her do anything. I hope that as you continue to talk you can come up with a compromise . there are sacrifices that may have to be made unless you are identical in every way. there are millions of couples going thru the same thing and no one can guarentee anything.
2006-08-15 06:36:55 · answer #10 · answered by sifustu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋