My son is starting kindergarten next week and we are expecting his baby brother to arrive in about 3wks. He is having a terrible time. Very angry at us and won't talk about it. I am worried because kindergarten is a big adjustment and then a new baby. Please let me know any advice you have for me.
2006-08-15 06:16:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Within the first few weeks of school, my daughter had become so wrapped up with her new friends and the excitment, that the nerves had completely gone, dropping her stress level. She too has a much younger sister, and the jealousy between syblings, even before the sybling arrives is perfectly normal. The best way we found was to incorporate her in taking care of the baby, or being a strong part in that developement. He's had you all to himself for his whole life, this is a scary change for him, reassure him that it doesn't pull you away from him, or make you love him less. Honestly, watching the way my daughter went from hating the idea of having a baby sister, to asking to help teach her or feed her or even change was amazing. It's normal, natural behaviour.
2006-08-15 06:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by mmaxx59 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he angry about the baby brother or kindergarten? Kindergarten is usually harder on the parent than the child :)
He'll be fine. Kindergarten is a fun thing for all the kids. First day might be a little traumatic if he has never been without you. Try going to Ikea it has that playroom, they can stay for up to an hour and a half, I think, and It's a great way to start to get him used to you not being around. If you don't have an Ikea think of other places that do that, carmax, summer camp even a type of place with big tubes, you check them in and they play until you get them.
If its the new baby, he's just unsure about what is going to happen. So when the baby does come make sure you allow him to help with the care of the baby and hold the baby, he has to bond with his new bro/sis. Don't freak out about little things regarding the baby. Just stay positive and praise him for all the good help he gives.
2006-08-15 14:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by trix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he is a big boy now. Let him pick out his new supplies/clothes. Tell him how fun school is and how important it is. tell him that he is your big boy and that you love him and you still will love him when baby is born. He can be the big brother and help mommy take care of the baby. When the baby comes along set a special time each day for you and the school boy. Let dad or whoever watch baby while you help your son with school work or spend a half hour at the park. Explain that babies need a lot of attention because they can not walk or talk and can easily be hurt. Tell him about when he was a baby how everyone said he was so cute and wanted to hold him..show him his baby pictures.
2006-08-15 15:25:25 · answer #3 · answered by hambone1985 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he angry? It sounds like there is too much stress going on there. After a week of kindergarten, he should adjust fine.Is he mad about the new baby or starting school? Sorry to say this, but he sounds spoiled to me.
2006-08-16 11:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! My son is total opposite. Thank God!
He's also 5 and we are also expecting but he's so happy about it all. Hell, that's why I'm having another because he wanted a baby brother/sister so bad.
You need, I think, to make more things about him for a while. Spend time with him and talk to him just about him. About how cool school is gonna be. About how he'll make friends. about what he'll learn.
Later afterr you give him som "him" time. Then you can bring up what was bothering him and reassure him that he'll still be important to you and make him feel like he can tell you anything.
2006-08-15 13:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by hotrod luvin princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, sounds like alot of stress for him....and you!
Try to spend some extra time with him doing special things.....day @ the park...zoo...story time @ your local library. I'm sure you are tired so you could also do a craft day and such @ home...Maybe also try to give him some "baby duties" ...like where to put things in the babies room ect...ask his opinon on toys for the new baby..make him feel he is needed as a big brother. Role play w/dolls or puppets to see why he is so angry???
Good luck to you:)
2006-08-15 13:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by AQHA34 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are screwed. If the boy is already mad at you before the baby comes, what are you going to do when the baby arrives?
It sounds like this boy is spoiled. I don't say that very often, but if he is already mad about the baby before it comes then he gets his way too much!
2006-08-16 01:14:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would spend as much time with him pamper him and tell him he's the best kid in the world make him feel good about himself when the baby comes set aside times to listen to him check homework and make him feel wanted but when the baby comes I would'nt give him as much attention of course but just enough
2006-08-15 13:24:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately make sure his kindergarten teacher is aware of the circumstances. He or she may have some great suggestons for you, especially once he/she gets to know your son.
2006-08-15 14:47:55 · answer #9 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him everybody else his age is going into kindergarten. If they can do it, so can he. He's a big boy. He can handle this.
And... Everybody else with kids this far apart has dealt with this. If they could do it, so can you. You're big parents. You can handle this.
2006-08-15 13:27:33 · answer #10 · answered by 42ITUS™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋