girls how would you react?

Question

ive been with my bloke4 2months, he has a female mate that he used 2 get off with b4 we got togeather but there just mates. a few days ago she told him she liked him as more than just a mate.
At the time we werent speakin but we sorted everything out on sat, that night he left me twice 2 meet sum1. i later checked his txts and he had txt her saying he wanted sex and was horny, i obviusly kicked off and he then confessed that he had met her to apparently explain to her that they would never be more than just mates, but while he was doing this he neglected to tell her that we were actually already back togeather.

i obviously cant stop him from seeing his mates but i just feel uncomfartable about the situation seen as she knows hes lied to me and i feel like every1 is havin a laugh at me behind my back. he says he was trying to protect my feelings by not tellin me he was meeting her. wot u think????

sorry this is so long lol

Answer 1

ok. get rid of this guy. u know why? cuz he makes u feel :

unappreciated
bad abour urself
embarrassed
ashamed in front of ur friends

This is NOT a "dream" relationship...!!! what are u doing? what do u want in a boyfriend? what do u want in a relationship???

yes u love him. i'm sure he cares about you. but is it really enough if he doesn't treat u right? are u willing to stay in a relationship that has love, but not respect? no commitment? that's just not Good for you. regardless of if u love him if he's not trustworthy, the truth is he's Just not Good Enough for you. end of story. if he is willing to change, ok. give him a chance. Because u love him, u will give him a chance. but not because u will let him run all over you, bulldoze you, treat u like crap again. if he truly loves u and Wants to be with you, he will change. he will make an effort to satisfy ur needs.

if he can't do it, or is not able to do it, u need to look for what is going to be Positive and Healthy for YOU. let him go, let him do whatever he wants to do. but not to you anymore. u need to find someone who makes u feel loved, respected, and cared for. he is obviously not satisfying ur need of a committed boyfriend. therefore, either communicate that he needs to change, or find someone who WILL and CAN be and do it for you. cuz u are already committed. u are already a great person. u are already a good girlfriend..why settle? why not wait til u find a Good, Great, Boyfriend? =T........ i'd rather be happy and healthy and positive than w/ someone who brings me down and makes me bad about myself.

Answer 2

You women act like the only man you could ever have is the one you're with... 2 months?? girl thats not marriage....get rid of that piece of **** and find someone else in case you didn't know already there are better men out there w/o all the drama stop acting like you're a stupid person who doesn't know how to approach this situation its easy and you'll get over him he isn't the last fricking man standing on the face of this earth....

thats all i have to add

Answer 3

If you're dating this guy, and he's cheating on you like this, you either need to talk with him and tell him to cut the crap or you're gone. Or just come out and tell him you know he's messing around and you don't like it, that you're leaving if you catch him do it again. Or just leave. I'd be so po'ed that if it was me, and I didn't care much for the guy, I'd be gone. Remember no matter what you decide, once a cheater, always a cheater.

Answer 4

in my view, announcing somebody who knew I had a boyfriend kissed me... i'd be like, what the hell? maximum (no longer all) different persons would in all probability react that way (a.ok.a. she). Or on the least, she does not think of you're particularly spectacular and does not say "omg! enable's occasion!" in case you rigidity it. possibly purely telling her you like her (blunt, romantic, the two way) would be safer? yet purely in case you kiss her, in case you cope with the placement suited and ascertain to no longer rigidity it and supply her a gamble to shrink back, i think of you will desire to be high-quality. once you are going to kiss her... i'd propose no Frenching, purely as a results of fact of comprehend for her relationship and all. yet howdy, notwithstanding you think of she'd savour extra, eh? :D All of it is subjective suggestion, notwithstanding (nevertheless if I have been you, i'd pay extra interest to the 2nd paragraph that the 1st, as a results of fact it relatively is the extra objective of the two). possibly telling us slightly extra approximately her fairytale expectancies (or a minimum of, what you assume they are), her character, etc. would help?

Answer 5

Kick him into touch....u both have insecurities cos ya both keeping things from each other. Move on and find someone who appreciates u more.

Not a good foundation for your relationship to start on.

After every fallout you have, he'll be off with his shag buddy. but to him it wont matter cos 'u werent together anymore.'

Is he worth fighting for?

Good luck

Answer 6

I think he is lying to you for a reason, dear. you shoul dump him or tell him that he needs to stop seeing her. If he really likes you and values youor relationship and how you feel about the situation, then he'll do what you ask. If he doesn't, he obviously doesn't care about you like you care about him.

Answer 7

He lied to her and you so i think he is not worth your time, he needs to make a decision you or his so called mate. You don't need to be treated like a infant with fragile feelings. confront him and ask him what he really wants.

Answer 8

if he really loves you he will give up his mates for you

i went through this with my guy he listened but when i got the girl on her own i knocked the s h i t out of her and i said if she ever spoke to my guy again I'd knock her out again.

why do girls try and steal other girls guys they can be such *****'s

Answer 9

I'd be absolutely furious - how dare he do that to you? I think he's just using you and for any guy to do that, well it's just wrong and totally out of order. You'd be better to ditch him and leave the pair of them to it as he'll soon get bored of her, or vica versa. He ain't worth it.

Answer 10

I think your boyfriend is full of **** and is willing to say anything to avoid your wrath, there's nothing worse than a liar and if you can't trust the guy you're sleeping with you shouldn't be with him.