Am I a bad person for being 25 and still living at home?

Question

I am 25 years old (female) and am still living with my parents. The thing is, I'm working on getting my Master's degree (part time MBA) , and I am also in a full time job. So, I'm not a slacker or anything. Unfortunately, I'm feeling ashamed of living at home. It all started a few weeks ago when my work colleague put me down about my situation and said how ‘sad’ it was.
told me that if I'm still living with my parents, then I'm not being a responsible adult. This.man is married and 60 years old,

I went to university for 4 years so I have left home and lived away before.

But, I'm working on my Master's degree at 25, and have a job, so I don't feel I'm being irresponsible. I got this job right away when I moved back home and it’s a good job. My parents are also more than happy with our arrangement. Also, many of the people in the Master's program are older, and already out on their own. So, I feel really immature compared to these people, and I'm afraid I'm going to be looked down on by some of them. I came on here hoping that someone could give me advice about what I'm going through.

Am I a bad person for being 25 and still living at home?

Answer 1

Reading your situation..in no way are you a bad person...in fact I think you are smarter than the rest of your "classmates" for living at home...I mean come on you are saving money so chances are in the long run you will pay off your student loans faster (if you have them)..not to mention you work full time and go to school!! Oh my gosh..if you did live on your own...that would be soo hard to do. I live on my own, am 22 and do not go to school and I have a hard time making ends meet with the prices of everything. That old man that is telling you those things is probably just jealous of you..I mean you are young and soo responsible...so he HAD TO THINK OF SOMETHING to put you down about...and it was a stupid thing he thought of.
As long as when you graduate you get on your own...you will be fine. If your parents are fine with the situation then I dont see the big deal...F that old man...he needs to find something else to complain about for once. I mean look at him-he is 60 yrs old and still working..obviously he did not plan well ahead.

Answer 2

At 25, you are the same age group as my children and there is no way you should be made to feel bad or guilty or ashamed of choosing to live with your parents. If they were unhappy about it and kept dropping hints about when you are going to leave , that would be another thing. As a Mum I am always happy to see my children and if they opt to stay with us that is fine by me. I know they need to make a life for themselves so I am glad for them that they have jobs and so on. They don't live with me now, but they have both been to University, and that is not financially easy these days. If they need time with us, this is their home.
You have decided to carry on studying while you have a full time job, the time will come when you will move out of your parents' home and maybe start your own family.
Your life is not like Mr 60-year-old's, he hasn't got a clue what he is talking about and has no right to be judgemental.
I lived with my parents after I finished university and stayed there until I got married. There is no earthly reason why you should make any other arrangements, if that's what you have chosen to do.
Some people can't wait to move out of their parents' home, some get thrown out. I think this is a sad state of affairs.
Good luck with the job and the studies, and here's to your future!

Answer 3

No you are not a bad person for still been at home at 25 years old, why would you even think that about yourself, you have parents that are happy for you to be at home, you work hard and full time, your in the process of a masters degree, your parents probably won't even see much of you with the amount of study and work your doing, its ok for people to condemn and say you shouldn't be living at home at your age, were is there a law that says what age you have to leave home anyhow, I was almost 28 when I left home to get married and my husband was almost 29 when he left home when we got married, we both laugh even now and say goodness we thought we were so mature and knew everything at that age and basically we knew nothing, how can you be immature with the education you have already done to get as this far to do your masters degree, you must be mature to have the brains to do it, ok so some of the people on your course are already living alone, but how old are they and how many years have they skimped and scraped to be able to live on their own, you don't get bonus points at 25 to turn into a home of your own, you have more than enough on your plate at the moment with your degree and having parents that are more than happy with you living at home is a blessing, you stay till your able financially and ready enough to leave home, others will always condemn, take no notice and be happy in the skin your in, good luck and study hard, you have a long way to go but its worth it.

Answer 4

The guy who put you down is just an bitter, jealous, stupid old fool.

A bit of parental support is a God send when you're studying so hard. The older people on your course know that. If anyone tries to demean you again just smile and tell them how great it is that you have a loving family who help you takesome time to focus on your studies. They'll be purple with jealousy.

I didn't move out of home until I was 30. I wasn't studying, but I was working my guts out on 18 hour days. I couldn't have got through it without help and support from my mum. Now, only a couple of years later, a own a massive place and have the job of my dreams. Without those years at home I would never have had all this.

Don't let jealous fools get to you x

Answer 5

no i dont think it is bad, if you need to be at home and everyone is happy, why worry? However you should at least make sure you are handy to have around, help out where you can, physically and financially.
Are you the only child or do you have younger siblings living at home?
If you are able to why not start making preparations so that it will be easier when you do move out?
I am sure your parents would rather you were with them than struggling on your own, and maybe getting into trouble?
However i think that maybe your parents deserve time for themselves too? You are definitley an adult now, and maybe they could do with some time together after raising you?

If you can afford to move out what is holding you back?
but if everyone is happy, then carry on living your life and dont worry about it!!
Just because people say you should do this or that, it doesnt mean you have too!!

Answer 6

If you are happy at your parents then does it really matter what this other persons point of view is.

I think you are a very wise person, you are working so you will not have a big debt hanging or a bigger debt than you would have had hanging over your head when you have finished your masters degree.
There is less rented accommodation around these days and what is available costs a fortune.
I imagine your parents like having you around if they didn't you would know, I imagine your parents are happy you feel you want to live with them.

The person who told you this is 60 things were different when he was young. He was probably married early and he also had to do national service at 18 he will view the world different from you. His wife has probably took over looking after him from where his mother left off.

Try not to let what he said affect you if you can.

Answer 7

I don't think you're sad or bad. You are not sponging off your parents and have nothing to feel ashamed about. You are, I expect, paying your way. I also assume, as you sound consciencious, that you are also helping out with household stuff where appropriate.

The older students are just jealous! I'm sure they long for a situation like yours, secretly! Also, as most of them are probably in relationships, I expect their set up is more similar to yours than they care to admit. I bet the 60 year old man you mention is well looked after by his partner!!!!

Carry on as you are. Appreciate your parents while they are with you and you with them. Enjoy yourself!

My niece (who is 20) lived with me for a bit, but she is lazy and has a miserable attitude and was resentful each time I asked for help around the flat (I work full time and am also at Uni) and I was most relieved when she finally moved home! She had a temp job here and did not go for any opportunity to better her life. She also disliked paying me rent!

You sound much more mature and together - don't see yourself as immature - celebrate being young and bright!

Good luck!

Answer 8

Of course you are not a bad person for still living at home. I'm sure there are many people who still live at home in their 20s and sometimes even older. In your situation it is not as if you are being lazy and are just sitting around the house all day doing nothing and causing problems, you are out getting a degree, which I'm sure your parents are very proud of and as you say your parents are also happy with the arrangement. As for the man who thinks it is "sad" that you are still living at home, well lets just say just because he might not have a very good homelife is no reason to be judgemental on other peoples.
Good luck in getting the degree.
Laura :)

Answer 9

I'm 39 and a female,and still live at home,BUT i do a LOT of things to earn my keep,so to speak.My dad is elderly,so i look after him,i do his laundry,i cook for him,go grocery shopping for him,do occasional yard work for him,clean his house,i do my own laundry and etc,so it's not like i'm mooching off my dad.I've got a part time job,and looking for another part time job because jobs are scarce where i'm at,i cant just get up and move because i dont have no money.I've got a college education,but that hasnt helped me get a good paying job either,this is the situation that many in this country face everyday! I do plenty around the house,plus a part time job,so i dont care what others think or say,i know i'm a diligent,hard working person,and God knows it as well,so that's all i need to know.Dont allow others to put you on a guilt trip!

Answer 10

No, some people see that as being too 'slack' in not 'venturing out' on your own. I'm in the same position, I finished my post grad last year and I can't really do anything until I get a full-time job.

With extortionate property prices is it any wonder a lot of young people are still at home?!

You seem like an intelligent person trying to do the best you can, don't let petty comments bring you down :)