This guy from my romantic past resurfaced after 15 years. (We ran into each other at a store). For the past month we have been corresponding through e-mail and occassional phone calls. During our e-mail he compliments me on how fine I still look, and how he remembers what I was wearing the first night we met, etc... but he does not initiate our contact to go any further. As far as I know he is single again and he knows I am. Our past romance ended on amicable terms. I want to start dating him again, but I do not want to be the one doing the chasing.
I know his life has changed alot and right now he is looking for a new job. I just want to spend time with him, but I don't want to appear desperate. I told him my birthday is coming up next month and so far he has not asked me of my plans.
If he does not want to hook back up with me, I wonder why he is constantly flirting with me and bringing up old times. He certainly isn't the shy type either. Do you think I am wasting my time?
2006-08-15 06:05:49 · 9 answers · asked by anosey1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only waste of time is listening to these people's answers. On the grand scale of people that can help your situation, first is God, second is this guy, and third is me, because I'll point you in the right direction instead of telling you what I think or what I would do.
Nosey, you really need to pray on this, and your best bet is to send him this email. Email this exact question to him and let him know how you feel.
You have no problem telling the whole English-speaking world, and you want him to know, SO TELL HIM... and pray on it.
email me if you wanna talk or ask me some questions
slyguy_hzleyes@yahoo.com
2006-08-15 06:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok as you say you're corresponding thru e-mail right? are you really aware of his personal life or perhaps his personal problems???what if he's not in a best financial status or he's waitin for something to come up or get something done and then he can start seein you out in a better condition don't you think so?
i think he doesn wanna sharehis personal problem with you since you guys found eachother lately and he doesn wanna scare you away...if i were you i would wait for some while to see how things will go and work....don't rush it becoz you're talkin to him on the phone or chattin and stuff just give him time to manage his stuff and date you in whatever situation he wants
goodluck and i really see a very good relation later on i bet.
2006-08-15 13:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by CherOkeeGurL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you bring up future plans, like what does plan, what kind of hobbies does he do,movies he enjoys.Just basic friend conversations.What he has done with his life the past 15 years, what did he learn from,what does he plan to change from it for the future. If he doesn't include you in any of those answers than he just wants friendship. Don't be desperate if it is for you, you will have it.
2006-08-15 13:16:47 · answer #3 · answered by MS 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no u r not wasting your time. that is so sweet, maybe he dont want to make no moves on u yet because he still dont have a job, and he may feel so what embarrased by that. just stay in touch and remember sex with an ex is the best thing ever.
2006-08-15 13:12:25 · answer #4 · answered by omylily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is highly possible he is looking only for the physical not the mental thought of you. I would leave it be and see if he makes more contact from there. let him do the chasing if he wants you he will make the next move. Balls in your court keep it and let him wiggle like a worm on a hook.
2006-08-15 13:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by miss_blk_kitty 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just come right out and ask him if he'd like to go out sometime and then take it from there. you won't appear desperate, just curious is all. go for it....there are reasons for everything...there's a reason you ran into him again after all that time
2006-08-15 13:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by raylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are wasting your time. Leave him alone cause it seems that the 2 of you will go right back to the way things use to be.
2006-08-15 13:17:58 · answer #7 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just be straight forward with him. tell him how you feel. that's the only way you'll find an answer, it may or may not be the answer you hope for, but at least you will know.
2006-08-15 13:12:44 · answer #8 · answered by Shuggah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe u two should just be friends for now and wait and see wat will happen. dont rush anything
2006-08-15 13:11:26 · answer #9 · answered by oye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋