will it work if we don't really communicate now when we live in the same city? we will learn to communicate when we are apart or will it just be worse??
2006-08-15 06:02:41 · 14 answers · asked by Nikki 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry to say but it'll probably just go downhill from here. Long distance relationships require excellent communication and then most hardly survive anyhow. But you know, it could be just the thing your rapport needs to jolt itself into high gear and open some channels!
2006-08-15 06:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am currently in a long distance relationship for over 2 years now. It works, but it takes a lot of dedication and planning. If you don't feel like you can dedicate time to your man, and if he can't for you, then you should leave that relationship behind. If you really want it to work the only thing that I can say is make sure that you talk on the phone or internet a lot. My boyfriend and I communicate at least twice daily, even if we are really busy. Just keep in mind that you love each other, and when you get mad, have a stuffed animal or picture that reminds you of him, and sit down with it and really think to yourself if it is worth it or not.
2006-08-15 13:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by littlemissfgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it, long distance relationships do not work... not even if there is communication. I can tell you that because I lived through one. Fortunately, I caught him trying to cheat on me... yes, TRYING because he's so damn pathetic that he couldn't... so I broke it off with him. Anyway, just forget about this relationship, you will find someone a lot better than that. Especially since you already have bad communication, you need to have great communication to have a great relationship. Good luck :o)
2006-08-15 13:08:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any relationship is strained by distance.
humans are sensual creatures, needing all the various kinds of contact (sight, hear, touch, smell even taste) to fully appreciate and bond with their potential mates.
Distance can be overcome by those in commited relationships (IE a husband and wife) ONLY WITH DIFFICULTY.
A relationship just starting is doomed if there is separation at its outset. Not only are their too many potential more readily available partners closer to each person, but even if the couple whose formative relationship is starting will develop a very stilted, unrealistic impression of each other.
talking on the phone is only one sense, not an entire impression.
chatting or web related communications are meager substitutes for real in the flesh contact.
people are only ever close to being real in person. To develop a relationship, to be properly intimate (not just sexually) you need to be together.
Distance is extremely difficult for established couples and families. It is the death nail for a new romance.
sorry if this is not the "love conquers all" answer you are hoping to read, but I have seen dozens of relationships either ruined or damaged before they could start.
Good Luck
2006-08-15 13:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by aka DarthDad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but based on what you have said this is not going to work. You guys are in the same city!!!! Listen, my parents kept a relationship in 2 different countries miles appart from each other, they used to call a lot every day and visit each other around every month so... it really depends how much you love the person.
2006-08-15 13:09:46 · answer #5 · answered by Apollo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.... When someone says the term "long-distance relationship" to me, It makes me want to roll my eyes and smack some sense into them. First of all, they take SO much love and trust. You have to put a lot of work into one, and you have to ask yourself "is he/she worth the work?"
Then, you have to consider, you don't talk much now. So when he/she's miles more away... You talk LESS! Espically considering your lover is out in a whole new place, with new people and new things.
You have to ask yourself if you really love them and should you really "Wait". I think Long-Distance relationships don't work, and those that do work took determination. Considering you don't talk much now, if you don't care that much about him/her, and it's not just a super kinda love, then I'd say, break it off because it'll be A LOT worse when they're gone.
2006-08-15 13:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I hate to break it to you but now if yall live near each other and dont even communicate much. I tried having a relationship with a guy who lived in Cali and I was in TX and we talked on the phone EVERY day, really racked up the bills, but it still didnt work because I needed to be with him physically not just talking on them phone. And mos tlikely yall will start seeing other people...
2006-08-15 13:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No if you dont communicate now, then you most likely wont later,and good communication is the key to any good relation.
2006-08-15 13:08:43 · answer #8 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will only get worse dont try it let the relationship go. Good Luck
2006-08-15 13:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by atm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem like it was working when it was short distance.
2006-08-15 13:08:09 · answer #10 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋