I have a 11 year old, who is smart and good in academics. off late Iam noticing that he wants more fun . He argues a lot If I ask him to do something he is not interested at that moment.His teachers say that he is a good student....its just that he is more playful and mishievous because of his age although some of the teachers feel that he need to be controlled a bit so that this trend does not continue into highschool. Iam worried about the future...Please advice...how should I handle this?
2006-08-15 05:59:16 · 9 answers · asked by anamika 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
there you go...pre-teen coming on! you can look forward to a few years of opposition from him....
whatever you have been doing for discipline has been working...he gets good grades in school.. he is just now reached a place where he wants to test his boundaries... what was the discipline in the past? keep it up... ground him, take away games, movies, radio etc.. limit his social activities unless he follows the rules of the home....
keep your boundaries and be consistant.. dont give in... let him know that his attitudes and behaviors is what causes him to be in trouble... reward him when he does good though so that you encourage his good behavior...
with my son, we took his game systems away and grounded him to the house... no tv, no games... he complained of being bored so he got to wash windows, clean out the trash bins, garage etc... he hated it... but he straightened up.. and when he did good he got to do pretty much whatever he wanted... he's a senior this year, drives his own car and works to pay for it.. he hasnt gotten into any trouble and is on the football team at school... he doesnt like to get in trouble and he's been this way since he was 15... so it took a couple of years of him constantly trying us to realize it was easier just to behave.... even he will tell you it just makes his life easier to be good.. and he tells his friends the same thing when they want to try to talk him into staying out all night, or go get drunk or whatever...
he always hated being grounded... and he didnt really ever go out alot.. he liked his games and his music and his computer.... he hated not being able to do that stuff... so taking it from him worked.......... and we only had to put him to work twice because of his being bored, that cured the boredom..lol he didnt like having to do all that work! lol
2006-08-15 06:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the age. My 11-year-old has been acting out a bit too. We are firm believers in grounding. We take away PS2 or tv or something important to him. We explain why it is being taken away and that there are consequences to his actions. The hardest part is following through. If you say a week MEAN a week! Don't let him off a day or two early. The main problem is that they are at that age where they still want to be kids but they also want to be grown up. It is very confusing for them. Hang in there and good luck!
2006-08-15 13:07:02 · answer #2 · answered by bubba's mom 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a mother myself and had this same issue.. after testing ( academic) ect.. I found that she was truly bored because the things she was doing was boring her, because she was advanced...
I tried at home to do activities based on her likes and needs that were also helpful with redirection ....
I would definately when school start perhaps call a metting with teachers and counselor and discuss your concerns and perhaps together as a team gather some ideas and plans...
2006-08-15 13:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by yaya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try time out, then after that when he finishes what he should be doing its time for the fun. Still kids home from school need a little while to chill before doing homework etc.
2006-08-15 13:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by flower wanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he hav something that he really enjoys doing ? If so when he does misbehave take it from him . explaine to him why ur doing it .thats the only advice i can give you. Good luck with your 11 year old.
2006-08-15 13:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by the6ccat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are asking a bunch of KIDS! Get to a professional. Geesh! Yahoo certainly has its share of yahoos!
2006-08-15 13:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to ask for help to the teacher or someone he likes.
Some times is hard to deal with someone all your life.
Maybe someone from your church or a boy & girl club?
2006-08-15 13:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by Carlitos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ban him from watching tv/using the computer/using the phone.
2006-08-15 13:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by Nails 4 breakfast,tacks 4 snacks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd go here: http://www.howtobehave.com/
2006-08-15 13:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋