I have a toddler that goes to my child care center that bites other children. We have tried everything, help!

Question

Please..only suggestions that are done without spanking or biting back.

Answer 1

When i worked in child care a few years ago, the procedure for a biting child was first off shadow the child. That means one care giver is mandated to follow every move of that child. Look for clues of any thing that could cause the biting. Also you need to speak with the parents to find out if anything is going on at home that could cause this aggression (ex parents divorcing or as simple as they play a game where mommy bites michaels arm and pretends to eat him and he thinks its a fun game). The parents and teachers need to both be extremely involved in diverting this from happening. THe child must be told "This is NOT ok. We do not bite our friends becaues biting hurts" Repeat this each time it happens or if you catch the child in the act of opening their mouth preparing to bite. The key is to talk to them about it almost adult like rather than spanking or biting them back. Its not fair to the child becuase if you bite them back they see you doing it and thinks its ok.

Best of luck!

Answer 2

Be on call with the parent of the "biter." Have the parent stay close by your center. As soon as that child bites, have the parent come get the child right away. Tell the child "You cannot be at school is you are going to bite." Tell the parent (so the child cannot hear) to have a very boring day with the child. Ask the parent to keep the child home and extra day if they can and to tell the child "You can't go today. I'm afraid you might bite someone." If they like going to child care, they will soon learn to be more gentle.

What you should do when this child bites at your center is this. As soon as the child bites someone, rush to the injured child and empathize. "Ouch! That must have hurt! You must be so upset. Let's get some ice to put on your bite." Shut out the "biter." He/she will not like the feeling of being left out.

You can also be very dramatic with the child when they arrive at your center. Keep the child away from the others. Say "I'm worried that you might bite someone. I don't want anyone to get hurt."

I would also empathize with the biter when they are calm. "You must have felt very (angry, mad, hurt, frustrated) when you bit "Emma." What can you do next time instead?" The child will learn to express their feeling rather than bite. Hope this helps! Good luck and be patient!

Answer 3

She needs to have someone following her around at childcare... they need to shadow her and take notes on what is causing the behaviors. I bet if they really investigate and are constantly right beside her, they will find the reasons she is biting. Toddlers do this... this is how they express themselves. There may be some other factors going on in the classroom that are contributing to the biting (such as another child antagonizing her). I would suggest this method to her teachers. They may give you a bit of the run-around if they don't have adequate staff, but this is probably the reason the biting is happening! There probably is the minimal amount of staff available, and so your child is only caught AFTER she bites. They need to be observing her to see what the antecedent is, and then they will be able to catch her before it happens. In the meantime, keep talking to her about how to tell others when she doesn't like them doing something to her or when she wants to play with a toy another child has. Most toddler arguements are based on these disagreements.

Answer 4

Well, I've heard that timeouts do wonders(one minute for each year). When the child bites, firmly tell them "no biting!" Tell the child what the timeout is for and when they are done, talk to them about why they shouldn't bite and have them apologize to the child they bit. Are the parents aware of the problem? If not, get them on bored so that they can keep a consistent disciplinary program going when the child is at home.

Answer 5

i work with toddlers and 2 year old in a day care center...i can feel your pain! What we do is we tell the biter in a stern voice, dowm on their level looking into their eyes "NO BITING! That hurts! " we make the biter give hugs and kiss the victims injury then we set both down and make the biter hold a piece of ice wrapped in a paper towel on the injury. when they are done we tell the biter again "no biting, that hurts your friend" and the issue usually resolves itself. Hope this helps

Answer 6

Same thing happened to my wife and I. We had to make the decision for my wife to stay home and raise the kids instead of the (2) income routine.

Worked out great, never missed a payment and have (2) great kids in Advanced Placement courses in Middle & High School.

It is all about choices. You have to choose to care for your kid who is acting out to get your attention one way or another.
Counseling or temporary care with a trusted care giver in a home setting may be another option. Any option will require that the kid gets a lot more personal interaction from Mom & Dad. Reinforce the positive and calmly let them know that the other behaviors will not help anyone.

The child has learned that they need to act out to get your attention.

I wish you the best of luck! Be well!

Answer 7

My son was in a biting stage when he was about 18 months old. The sitter made a suggestion that she did when her son was small and would not stop swearing...give him ONE flake of red pepper. I didn't want to do the biting back or giving him soap so I tried it. It only took a couple of times of receiving that "hot pepper" for him to stop. We have not had any incidents since.

Answer 8

What I do with my 2 yr old is this....I make sure that she hears a verbal and stern "NO" and that biting hurts. I then make her bite herself, not hard but just enough for her to feel it. That way she can put the action to the feeling. My daughter hasn't really bit since I have done that to her.

Answer 9

A drop of Tabasco sauce after every bit and it will stop real soon. There was a child in my sons day care that bit and it worked after only a few times.

Answer 10

hi, some children chew and misbehave - inspite of the undeniable fact that the actual undeniable actuality that you weren't advised about different incidents i imagine is alarming. also, the attitudes of the instructors are alarming. also, children to come upon different children - i imagine that's standard. you may want to be conscious in case your newborn bumps into issues plenty and if the instructors imagine your son bumps into others more effective than others then they ought to have pointed this out to you. Does he get bumps at abode - or in uncomplicated words in college? If in uncomplicated words in college, then why in uncomplicated words in college? what's the style? i'd ***** to the director and communicate to her. i'd also seem for yet another college - no longer because of the biting yet because of the options-set of the instructors. children opt to be dealt with with a lot care and love and the instructors opt to be doing the right ingredient by technique of each newborn. And in the adventure that they are no longer - something is amiss. you opt to target to sit down down and communicate this by skill of such as your husband so that you may want to artwork at the same time in this difficulty for the sake of your son. you won't be able to administration what occurs in college - you're literally not there. possibly both one in all you may want to bypass to the faculty and communicate over with the director - possibly your husband might want to take an hour off artwork or something. it is truly major that you verify this difficulty at the same time so that you're supportive of this annoying difficulty - and your son might want to be less than pressure about all this too. good luck with it