Can one half of a couple get too comfortable with their significant other?
2006-08-15 05:49:45 · 14 answers · asked by Dee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it's not a bad thing...but u have to be sure u are secure with Yourself FIRST before u can be secure in your relationship. the thing is, when u are truly in love, and love that person to the best of ur ability, that means even if something happens, u want the best for that person. even if the relationship doesn't work!!! being that secure is tough. :) but it's great...because now u are with that person because u feel that they satisfy ur needs, wants, and desires...so much that u need nothing else. that is Awesome. i don't think u can truly be secure, if u have doubts that the other person is lying, cheating, or not secure as well. if that person gives u reasons to feel secure, i believe ThAT is what allows u to truly feel secure. if that person says, "i'm not sure about this, i don't know if i love you..."... it's SO hard to still be like "oh don't worry, i know it's true!". but if that person does all he can to treat u with love, respect, honor and all those things, how could u not be anything less than comfortable? :)
therefore, it's not a bad thing, as long as u keep up with the signs. if there are any negative indicators, it's worth taking a look. it's worth checking things out. because you have to trust ur partner. u have to know this person is going to do what's right for you, and by you, in order to continue a healthy, growing relationship. if anything gives u an inkling of negativity, or sadness, or neglect, there's a problem.
i am truly secure w/ my relationship now, because i KNOW that my boyfriend and i will work on anything. any miscommunication, any problem, anything or anyone that comes between us, i have experienced true love and understanding and trying from him, and i do the same always, to try to do what is best for US. i am way more secure in this relationship than i have EVER been in my life! therefore, it is thru my expectations of myself as a girlfriend, and what i expect from my man, and his fulfillment of those expectations, that i can be secure. it is work, but damn is it worthwhile!! :) i trust him, and i know he trusts me, cuz we've worked on it. we've been thru the bad, and come out STRONGER. that is so worth working on...can i find that w/ someone else? i don't know, but i don't CARE! i am Happy. i am Secure. i love him. and i do'nt need to hide anything. if he treats me badly, i won't take it. not one bit. cuz i treat him well, why should i be treated badly? i am THAT secure with our relationship.
it's worth it, keep working on urself and what u want, and u will find something worthwhile! :)!
2006-08-15 06:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if it makes you take each other for granted. I have been in relationships in the past where I have done this (and/or my partner has).
Getting "too comfortable" can result in partners not treating each other as well as they should, lots of fights, and a messy breakup.
I remind myself every day to be thankful for my fiance and how happy and lucky I am to have him.
2006-08-15 05:54:58 · answer #2 · answered by july2007bride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too secure is too vague. However, if it is one sided, the other person may get 'smothered" and become abusive. You can be concerned and comfortable, but just be good together
2006-08-15 05:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by zucapazzi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 19:21:33 · answer #4 · answered by omparsad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a category of "too secure" when referring to relationships, you are already in trouble.
2006-08-15 05:56:08 · answer #5 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely...it happened in my last relationship...my ex got so "comfortable" and "secure" with our relationship that she felt it was ok to verbally abuse me in public. she told me to "shut up so i can talk" on more than one occasion, and anytime i did something to make someone laugh, i was "being an idiot". i understand there are circumstances where this might, MIGHT, be acceptable, but certainly not those. i broke up with her two weeks later.
2006-08-15 05:55:07 · answer #6 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes yes.. but it's not bad if youo really are in love. Man these days i see all kinds of people cheating, but there's good people out there too
2006-08-15 05:53:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes, because you may start taking things for granted, and that's not good.
2006-08-15 05:56:14 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Mojo Rising 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My feeling is comfortable is good, settling is not, be content but don't let yourself go and don't let your values be compromised!
2006-08-15 05:54:53 · answer #9 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yes...it happens in all relationships UNTIL the big BANG!!!
2006-08-15 05:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋