Are long distance realationships wortth the effort?

Question

I am in a long distance realtionship but I feel that my partner does not put in as much effort as I do. Should I let the relationship go?

Answer 1

First off, IslandBabe, the majority of females think like you do, so if you're looking for a perspective on a situation that you might not have seen before, listen to guys. Most chicks don't know any more than you do about guys, so ask one of us.
ANSWER------
Let it go, Babe, there's no reason to keep it going.

Check this out, you may have a relationship, but you CAN'T have a "dating relationship" if you can't date. You can't date him, and you can't date anyone else, because you're still "with" your guy. When you keep a long distance relationship, what you really have is just feelings for the other person. I'll tell a girl how I feel about her, and if she wants to date (whether casually or exclusively) that's cool, but if she can't (for whatever reason), then we don't date.

Right now, Babe, you can't date anyone--you're taken so you can't date anyone but your boyfriend, but you can't date him cuz he's gone. That's why he's not putting forth as much effort as you are. He probably at least subconsciously realizes that this relationship is a lost cause. But that's not to say that you did anything wrong, Island, it's not that _you_ are a lost cause; but you can't have a dating relationship if you can't date, so why keep the title and deprive yourself of opportunities to enjoy yourself with other guys?

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Answer 2

I too am in a long distance relationship and there are definately times that i feel the same - i have discussed this with my lover and he seems to improve after we talk but then he kinda falls back into the bad habits, i dont think that it is he's not putting as much effort as he is busy and I probably expect too much. But definately talk to your lover and explain your feelins before you do anything, see if he can improve, maybe he doesnt even realize - good luck - ps - there are days that are easier than others, it depends on what's keeping me occupied, but long distance relations are definately hard

Answer 3

The relationship is what you make it. You should be open with him and communicate better. Let him know how you're feeling. I've been in a long distance relationship for a while and it's going to be a while longer. I'm moving to be closer to him, but that's months away.

If you both are committed it will get easier.

Answer 4

are long distance relationships worth it? Yes they are if you are BOTH equally commited. It takes alot of work to make a long distance relationship work and if only one person is doing all the planning, organization, calling etc and the other person is not, then I don't think that it will work. Communication, trust, devotion and comprimise is what is required to make it work.

Answer 5

it is not the quantity but the quality of the time that you two spend together. just ask yourself some questions like these and see how you begin to think about your situation in a different way.

when you are spending time together how does it make you feel? how does that person make you feel? when you haven't spend time together how do you feel? would you be happier in another relationship? am i doing this because its easy or because this person is already here? good luck ;)

Answer 6

U should. Try to find someone closer to u... Besides, u said it urself, he doesn't put effort as u do

Answer 7

I think LaRue M killed this question. You won't find a better, more thorough answer than that.

Answer 8

It really test your endurance and patient. Also your phone bills, travelling expenses etc..