Ok this is the situation: my boyfriend and I recently broke up and I am devastated. Everything was incredible except for the fact that he partied way too much and he knew that did not make me happy at times. He told me he loved me after only a few weeks and I love him too. But when we broke up he said that he still loved me but he knew that he wasn't making me happy because of his wild ways, and he thought he should end things before they got worse (and he had a feeling they would down the road). The question is: why would he want to break up with me if he 'supposedly' loved me? I don't get it. If he loved me as much as he said he did he would try to want to work things out right?
2006-08-15 05:24:36 · 28 answers · asked by prairiefire_14 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he broke up with you after that ,
guess what he wasn't in LOVE with you.....
If he was in love with you he would do anything to make your relationship continue.......
Love will cause the most level headed people you know do the strangest things......
Don't fret it girl let go of him , wait for a man that will stay with you through thick and thin....... :-)
Your desire should have been his only concern if he supposedly
Loved you and desired to be with you
His partying and running around would have taken a back seat to your happiness......
Hope this has helped you sort things out
Good Luck
2006-08-15 05:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by Larry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys can be dogs. Obviously your ex needs to grow up before he gets into a serious relationship. If he told you he loved you after only a few weeks I would question that. Love takes growing and trust and if it's just something that's said it may not be the full truth of it. He may have liked you a lot but if he truly loved you he would have made an effort to be with you instead of going out to party. Move on there is someone out there who will truly love you and want to be with you.
2006-08-15 12:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by Luna V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He felt that he was hurting you. Although he loved you specifically, he did not really agree with the sort of life you led.
I know a guy who broke up with a girl because he was starting to settle down in his life and she was busy partying and travelling. He really cared about her, but he did not wish to change his life over her.
Your boyfriend did the right thing. The only way people change is if they want to be changed. If he enjoys his partying and wants to keep doing it, even if he stopped on your account, he would be unhappy because you would always be an obstacle to what he wants. It is better this way. It really is.
2006-08-15 12:37:16 · answer #3 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no... he loved u enough to let u go b4 he hurt u even more. he knew it would be hard for him to change his wild ways and he wasn't gonna drag u into that downward spiral with him. he cares about u too much to let u stay with him while he only partied harder and got worse and worse. he loves u and is looking out for u. if he thot things would get better he would have stayed with u, but he doesn't think that and so he had to do the hardest thing he's ever done- give up the gurl he loves. he just doesn't wanna hurt u.
2006-08-15 12:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by ♥_mrs.smith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is obvious that the 2 of you are not compatible and that it causes problems why continue? He saw that the things he likes to do (partying) is not what you like and that you get mad about it...he also knew he wasn't willing to change his ways and thought best to end it now, to save more pain in the future......OR the ******* has been cheating with a chick more up to speed with his wild ways.
2006-08-15 12:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are trying to stop him from doing the things he enjoys doing. See, it doesn't matter whether it makes you happy or not --- if he is young and still has partying in his system and you are holding him back, then he's been forced to be someone he's not. You wouldn't like that either. He may love you - he may care about you but just because you tell him to stop something.....well, that is just not your decision. Love is "unconditional" --- that is what it's about. It's not about changing someone to be who they are not. He'd end up resenting you in the long run if you made him change for you.
2006-08-15 12:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be confused too. I don't know why he broke up with you. Perhaps he is not ready to really settle down in a relationship. There has to be a compromise and balance. It sounds like you both have completely different perspectives and priorities. It might have been best that you are no longer together.
2006-08-15 12:41:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like he said love when what he was feeling was infatuation. just because he said it to you doesn't mean it was real or the deep, abiding love of ever after. because if it was true love, most people wouldn't quit so easily.
so chalk it up to young love and find someone suitable to your lifestyle. let this one go. if it turns out i'm wrong - maybe he'll be back in your life someday, when the time is right. but most likely, you will find someone else and he will either do so too or continue partying.
2006-08-15 12:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by hiddenhotty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) He either does not love you as much as he says and is using that as an excuse and has someone else in mind or
2) He knows he is heading down the wrong track and can't stop & he truely loves you and does not want to bring you down with him.
3) More than likely it's #1. Sorry
2006-08-15 12:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by majesticwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like it's straight out of a soap opera. Give it a rest. If he really loved you, he'd be devastated too. There's plenty of fish in the sea; pick a new one that's not so wild.
2006-08-15 15:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by cookiemonster007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋