we've been together for a year and 4months on and off he tries to talk 2 other females that's why we break up so much but to tell you the truth i love him and i would **** him up if he went out and got another girlfriend but its over between us we talk though as if a couple im tired of him lying to me tellin people he never went with me so we broke up and now he stays on my mind what is a good way to get over him? i dont know if i can i've tried so many times!
2006-08-15 05:09:57 · 33 answers · asked by mizzkrunk_09dabaddest 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
TELL HIM ...YOU DONT LIKE HIM, THEN HE WILL LIKE YOU
2006-08-15 05:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by Jeff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well personally Ive been through a problem like that too and what I did was put all my attention into my work and my friends and cut of from the guy completely I gave him the cold shoulder. I also went shopping and hung out with my friends guy watching, but when I saw my ex or even someone who looked like him I walked away and thought of him as a ship with holes in it sailing away from land. soon my ex had sailed away from my mind almost completely, but when I do think about him those few rare times it stings a little. I just say that its a mistake ill never make again. It will always hurt a little put the you just try the best you can to get by.
2006-08-15 05:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You really do sound messed up!
First of all, you're obsessed. Get him completely out of your life, and remember that niether of you has a claim on the other. Therefor he has no power over you that you do not give him.
Get other groups and activities into your life. Do things you enjoy. Look at the world around you: There is much more to see than one relationship that didn't work out.
If all else fails, see a counsellor: You may need some first-hand help getting your feet back under you.
Good luck!
2006-08-15 05:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just relax dear. you must have some good friends that you can hang out with. if not go out and get some. spend some time with ur family, or doing something that you have been putting off while you were together. take a rigorous hike, or swim, it's summer time still, there are plenty of things to do and lots of people to meet. most often times the bad stuff is all in your head, no kidding. do something different, keep yourself busy, if all else fails SLEEP is the most natural healer of all. good luck.
2006-08-15 05:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by Rosiebutt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you have to do is break contact with him.. that is the most basic thing to do. you have to mentalize yourself that you can't go to the clubs where you know he's going to be, or shopping at the grocery store you know he shops at.. you have to realize that if you continue bumping into him, and having contact with him, you are going to be dressing yourself up, and putting make up on, thinking of him.. you can't talk to him, erase him from your msn, cellphone.. everything.. it's hard, but you have to take the huge step.. the next thing to do is make a list of all the things you hate about him, no love list.. all the things you hate about him.. Try to picture your future with all his defects.. try to imagine him all lazy making you carry your groceries inside, or not being faithful when you have a couple of kids, and a third one on the way.. and you have to realize that he is not your prince charming, and he never will be.. you have to imagine your prince charming, treating you like a princess.. and you have to keep that in mind, you have to re-read the hate-list every time you feel like calling him.. the first month is the hardest.. after 3 months, you'll be considering other guys.. after 6 months of no contact he's history.. the more you see him.. the longer the "history period" gets.. good luck
2006-08-15 05:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by verito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a jerk! Good for you! Now, the first thing I will say is to keep yourself busy, so you are not sitting around thinking about him. Take a fun class on something you have always wanted to learn how to do. (e.g. I am learning how to sew) Or, try reading a good book.
Just remember one thing, you made the right decision. Remind yourself why you broke up with him and try to forget about the good stuff. It's easier to get over someone when you are mad at them.
2006-08-15 05:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by Sugar_Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be at home all by yourself dwelling on the situation. Hang out with your friends and family. Go out and kick it. Meet some new guy friends. And of course dont' talk to him anymore if he's being a dick.
Main thing is meet a bunch of new guy friends so you can have a choice.
2006-08-15 05:21:29 · answer #7 · answered by latenighteevents 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a nice rebound boyfriend. That will take your mind off of him. Go to places you know that he will not be to make sure you don't run into him. MOVE ON, TURN THE PAGE. He is no good for you if he is jerking you around like this. Let him be some one else's ****** boyfriend, you have already played that one out.
2006-08-15 05:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by scotty mayo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about going out and doing something, like hanging out with friends. When you get out and do something else, it should help to get your mind off of him. You can also go places with friends and maybe you'll meet a good guy.
You can't get over someone if you keep talking to them like you're dating. And you say he tried to get with other girls while y'all were together, so why are you still talking to this skuzzball? Don't waste your time with him.
2006-08-15 05:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by peaches1111_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
and you called me torn.. ha.. but no really i know how it feels to love someone but to know it would never work.. if he lied about goin with you he aint worth yo time any ways. i hate to say it but you need something new to get your mind off of him and to show you what you've been missin. You cant be mad if he gets another girl.. you have to move on.. show him that you dont care anymore, because all he's doing is wasting your time.. so what if he gets another chick.. you get a new dude and thats that.. later for all that playin games.. he aint worth the time
-Tayy
2006-08-15 06:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't waste your time thinking about him. If he denies about you, why bother. There's alot of guys in the world for you to choose. Life is too short to be wasted for a jerk. Move on, and get a good life. Boys are just boys. Don't pay attention to them much. Try to focus with your life, and what you can do in order to achieve your personal goals. Love yourself first before anything else, except God!
2006-08-15 05:19:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋