I know I am very sexy, beautiful and attractive but I am also very friendly,nice,caring and fun. Guys are so intimidated by me that most of my relationships don't last. They just get so shy and nervous around and no matter what I do and how much I try to make them comfortable, it doesn't work. Sometimes, they even get more nervous and shy. Will this ever end?? lol
2006-08-15 04:59:37 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good lord there are some bitter chicks on this thing. You do not need to "get over yourself". Congrats on being self-confident - your parents did a good job with you.
For those of you who told this nice lady that she needs to be more humble: have you EVER heard a guy comment that his GF is great because she's so modest? I don't think so. A mature and well-adjusted *man* will appreciate an outgoing, confident and attractive woman. Sadly they are few and far between so it might be a while before you find a decent one. In the meantime, don't ever dumb yourself down for some random dude just because you're lonely.
You're awesome just the way you are. You other b!tchy little birds need therapy and a good makeover.
2006-08-15 07:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by Irish Red 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Wow. What a terrible dilemma for girl to be in. Seriously.
If I were you, I would jump out the window right now.
"I know I am very sexy, beautiful and attractive but I am also very friendly,nice,caring and fun...will it ever end?"
With that kind of attitude I'm afraid you're so attractive that a lot of guys are going to be buzzing around you for quite some time, maybe even the rest of your life.
Unfortunately (or fortunately depending on your taste) that means you will have to sift through whole list of boys - a vast majority which will be inexperienced, low self-esteemed, shallow; boys who are easily persuaded and taken by what their eyes fall on.
But if you could maybe find a confident, mature type of guy, a real man that could appreciate you as a whole, as well as your personality --he had the ability to look deeper, look past your face, your skin, (and any other physical assets)...
if you could find such a man, I would imagine that he would feel much more content and comfortable rather than intimidated around her, knowing that there, sitting next to him, was a girl that was for once more than just a pretty face.
2006-08-15 05:04:20 · answer #2 · answered by DavidDucati 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why guys would be intimidated when first approaching, most men become babling idiots when approaching a beautiful woman for fear of saying or doing the wrong thing and ultimately get rejected. What I don't get is the fact that you are talking about your relationships not lasting, this indicates that you are well beyond the approach phase and some sort of intimacy has already been established, so maybe it's not the fact that you are so good looking and sexy but maybe something in your personality tha is turning the guys off.
2006-08-15 05:14:13 · answer #3 · answered by Gabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you say is true and you're not exaggerating or being arrogant, then perhaps you're dating guys that are beneath you.
In other words, you need to stay in your league - why downgrade to coach class if you've already got a first class ticket.
This is why the rock star and groupie relationships never go anywhere. If you're a rock star, you date other stars. No one wants someone with less confidence, less success, or more unresolved issues. That's just unwanted baggage.
Aim high like yourself, but be very careful not project yourself as arrogant - people in coach class have feelings too.
2006-08-15 05:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMAO
I hear you. I never put much stock in looks, but people (men & women) have always told me that I'm gorgeous. Who cares! But I'm also strong-willed and independent. And that's tough for many men to handle.
Or so I thought until I met my current bf. Turns out, I was just choosing the wrong men. Once I found a man who was self-confident and intelligent and self-assured, he didn't have any problems with accepting me for who I am. And he certainly has never been intimidated by me.
So don't change who you are for anyone and just keep looking until you find that one guy who is right for you.
2006-08-15 05:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a man that can appreciate all of your benefits, and not be intimidated by you. Whether you are sexy, smart, or independent. Maybe the guys you are with are so self-conscious, and have low self-esteem. Find a man, not a boy I guess is what I am trying to say.
2006-08-15 05:04:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexy, beautiful and attractive huh...whats the difference? Oh, that wasn't the question huh? Are you serioulsy trying to say that these guys aren't shy when you meet them? are you saying they arent strong, prideful, full of self-esteem men when you meet them? I REFUSE to believe that you break the men I have described down to spineless, weak men that turn to putty so I am going to say the guys you get with are already shy and nervous. Step to a man like the ones I described and let me know how that goes for you.
2006-08-15 05:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK it may sound a lil shallow but you need to find a hot guy who intimidates most girls...he would be perfect for you and he wouldnt have to be shy cause neither of you would be out of the other persons league
OH and f*ck all of these people saying you need to be humble...as the saying goes "If youve got it, flaunt it"...these "humble" people are usually the ugly ones...good luck
2006-08-15 05:10:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date someone who is just as sexy and beautiful as yourself and very very confident in himself. The way to stop it? Don't worry about it. You can't change guys and the way they react to you being a very outgoing person. Move on to the next one. One day your Prince will come. And he will be just like you. Only in the male version. LOL
2006-08-15 05:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by Samantha1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are intimidated by you because you are too full of yourself. You need to come back to earth and find a common mortal to date you. Since you are the hot one, you should make the first move if you find someone you like
2006-08-15 05:05:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋