Relationship Advice?

Question

I have been dating this girl for almost a year. We get along great, however 3 weeks ago she cheated on me. She is clinically depressed and was in a depressed state, she told me about what she did and broke down into tears. Before this incident i thought she was the one, I still love her to death. But should i move on or try and work through this? The topic of marrage has come up before and she was the one who brought it up, but now she says its scares her to death. I am ready for marrage that is what i am looking for in a relationship, one that leads to marrage. But if she is now scared and cheated on me, should i forgive her and move foward or find someone who will treat me better? thanks for the advice guys.

Answer 1

I would say take a break from her. Tell her you need time to sort out your feelings. Make it a set time like 2 weeks or something like that and dont talk to her at all for those 2 weeks. Take those two weeks and see how you feel. Do you miss her? have you wanted to talk to her? Do you feel relieved?

She may use those two weeks to figure out where she is in the relationship and what she wants. But then again she may just go out to the bars and find some guy to bang. You never know until it happens.

Answer 2

Unfortunatly, I have been there. You deserve someone who is failthful to you. It's ok, if she thinks your not the one. You are at that point in your relationship where you need to make sure this person is the one. Obviously, you both are not on the same page. Just being "clinically depressed" is not a reason to be a PIG. Do not settle for second best. It is ok to want someone who you can trust. What are you going to be doing if in 2 years she wants to go out with friends, you will argue to who she is with and what she is going. It is not fun when the shadow is always there.

Answer 3

I really feel for you. You seem like a great guy but you really need to follow you heart. She maybe depressed but are you prepared to put up with her cheating. It may not be her last time. If doesn't want marry you, you should move on to a real person who would love to be in her shoes.lol

Answer 4

You need to be honest with yourself. Do you think that you can put this behind you if you stay together? Do you trust her when she tells you that it will never happen again? If you can't do those two things then it will be near impossible to move ahead with this relationship.
If you decide to stay with her and give her another chance, I would strongly suggest that you put off the whole marriage thing for a while.
Good luck to you.

Answer 5

You cant hold raging sex drive against the girl. I suggest getting as much sex from her as you can, force yourself to only see her that way, and let her know that you don’t really want her for anything except sex. Meanwhile keep your eye out for something better. Avoid marriage like the plague until you are at least 36 - 38 years old or until youre certain your not letting your sex drive make decisions for you (be honest with yourself about this)

Answer 6

One a cheater always a cheater. I would give her one more chance, but if she does it again its not worth is because if she does it before the marriage she will do it during. If you really trust her u know what to do. But there way better people out there.

Answer 7

Avoid cheaters. They are bad people who have attitudes. Mental illness or not, they are not good for us at all.

Answer 8

MY ADVICE TO YOU IS TO GO YOUR SEPARATE WAYS... CHANCES ARE, IF SHE CHEATED ON YOU ONCE, SHE WILL FIND ANOTHER OPPORTUNITY TO DO IT AGAIN.