I am looking for something positive to build on. My girl broke up with me two weeks ago. Im not contacting her at all and I know she still loves me. I want her back but I am moving on. Right now everything hurts and I want to think that I will find another that I am as attracted to and with whom I connect with as well as I did her.
2006-08-15 04:29:58 · 17 answers · asked by onthedlyoshi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have recently lost a love who has moved away. She brought colour to my life and inspired me to be more creative again in things I'd forgotten I had talents for like song writing and art. Instead of craving for her it took a lot to just love her for who she is with or without her - no catches. It's the best way to love and let go without bitterness or bad feeling. It's called Agape love - look it up. It may help you to see through your choices. Hope it helps
2006-08-15 04:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man.. my shortest relationship was a year and a half. So I know exactly how you feel. I recently broke up with a girl I've been seeing for 2 3/4 years and she deeply loves me.. But I have to move on.
You should make sure you're not going into a relationship because you NEED someone to be there. That reason might screw you over in the end. So for the first month or so you should see/meet a lot of new people and friends. Just so you can be with people.. thinking on your own is dangerous after a breakup and could cause you unnecessary stress. So try calling up a couple buds or going out to a bar and having some fun or something. Who knows.. maybe in that time you'll meet someone new? =)
2006-08-15 04:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess we all work with what we have, making the best out of bad situations. Sorry to hear your struggling a bit however...the flip side, think about you for a bit...what is it that you like to do, I mean, what was your enjoyments at one time, you know...when guys are enjoying sports, competition, travel...etc...have you been there somewhere you can relate to your own character as an individual who was known with a certain personality trait...meaning amongst the guys. If so where were you then, the joker, the darer, the story teller, the bluffer, think about it. How long has it been you took time out for yourself to enjoy anything like that. If you haven't done such things, it's opportunity to take time in your healing process to re-discover yourself. Keep an open mind for new friendships and new experiences that you will have to freely express you! Wishing brighter days your way, good luck!
2006-08-15 04:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger, I had this fantasy that everything would last forever. Each girl I was with was "the one". Each one knew me and understood me and I "loved" her. I clung so tightly that I crushed the life out of every relationship I was in. Then one day I gave up. I gave up the whole fighting to hold on thing. I gave up desperately searching. I gave up the need to have someone to be happy. Just like that, someone fell into my lap. Just plop, right out of the sky.
My previous record for relationship longevity was 9 months and it felt like forever. I'm going to be marrying the girl I'm with now in a couple months. We have been together 5 years, but it feels like it has just flown by. I guess time really DOES fly when you are having fun.
I hope that helps. Not quite sure what you were looking for.
2006-08-15 04:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by steele_feher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I was married for 13 years, and could never have any kids. he left me for my best friend and they stole all of my horses and everything that I loved. Well with in the next year, I met someone and we got together, and now I have two very beautiful kids by him. I know that I was not meant to be with my ex and that is why I could not conceive by him... there is someone out there for you, you just have to look and you might be looking in the wrong place or not at the right type of person. My guy now is totally different from what I ever thought that I would have.
2006-08-15 04:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just recently broke up with someone I thought I would spend the rest of my life with. The way I get through it is to remind myself of my motto "what ever is supposed to happen, will". I guess although I thought it, he wasn't the right guy after all or else it would have worked. There is a better relationship waiting for me somewhere and I will find it when its time for me too. Same with you.
2006-08-15 04:37:11 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine had a guy break up with her. She ran into him a few years later and he had really let himself go. She barely recognized him he looked so bad lol. So happy ending there! My advise on finding new love is to ease into it. First give yourself time to heal. Don't rush into anything especially sexually. And be friends with the woman first. Take your time getting to know eachother before it gets physical.
2006-08-15 04:43:29 · answer #7 · answered by Carol B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok me and my boyfriend were madly in love. we had been dating for 2 years and we were about to get married. but when we told him parents, his mom hated the idea. she flipped. she told him that if he was going to marry me, then she would disown him. she hated my guts from the moment she met me and me and her were always fueding. but my boyfriend loved his mom ((as anyone would)) and of course he wouldnt let his mom disown him. so thought about what he was going to do for the next week, and then we finally made a desicion. he said - "baby, you know i love you. and ive loved you since the day i met you. but i also love my mom. i wouldnt be here living today, if she didnt give birth to me. we will find other soulmates, but we will never find new parents..so im sorry but i cannot marry you. but any guy would be lucky to marry you. and i will always love you" tht was the last time i saw him..and i cried for days..but then i relized tht i would have done the same. but 4 years later ((present time)) he called me and he told me his parents were dead and he wanted to marry me and i said no. because i relized i was perfectly happy without him. i relized tht there are plenty of other people out there for me and i dont need him
its not the happiest story...but found someone else
2006-08-15 04:56:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have been through some BAD ones. The worst was my bf running off with my best friend. Ouch! My (now ex) boyfriend and I worked through it though and are now very good friends. It just takes time, you will not be feeling this way for the rest of your life. You'll be okay!!!
2006-08-15 04:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let yourself have time to heal. My Fiance and I broke it off once for 2 months about 5 years ago, but reconciled and have been together ever since. Just give her time. Good Luck
2006-08-15 04:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by C H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋